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| which way is up? |
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finally diagnosed at 55
I have been in and out of therapy, and on various meds, for about 38 years. I was put on Strattera, about 2 months ago. All of a sudden, I could see things much more clearly, was not constantly overwhelmed and over reacting. A problem quickly thereafter arose... .Anger! I can now look back at my life and see what I have missed, and all the wrong turns that I took. I now can clearly identify my life's goals, but it is too late. I have been furious and depressed beyond description. I have alot to be grateful for, and I am. I have a wonderful husband, a 16 year old daughter who is "the apple of my eye", a beautiful home and we all have good health. My goals were simple; live on a horse ranch and have lots of children, and a husband to love and be able to count on. Now, my 16 1/2 yr. old, is planning to leave for college in Fall of 2009, I have tried everything to get another child - was turned down for adopting a special needs child, after 2 years of trying. With Strattera, I might not have been turned down, and I am struggling to find a western riding place, also nervous to 'get out there', and I love the outdoors, but live somewhere that is getting hotter and steamier every year. I know that these don't sound like big problems, but I am 55 and getting older, and it is hard to realize what I wanted out of life is mostly beyond reach now. Is anybody else suffering from this time warp shock, after putting on the adhd med glasses - with their horrifying clarity??? |
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5 May 2008 @ 8:16 PM
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| grace |
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Just be thankful.....
Please don't fret and worry about what hasn't happened...just be thankful that the rest of your days will be filled with purpose! No need to cry over spilled milk! My daughter , who's 17, was just diagnosed with ADD, inattentive type, and I now have an appointment to discuss ADD with my physician. Finally, I think someone will pay attention to the fact that my whole life has been a "misdiagnosis" . (I am 56!) My daughter and I are carbon copies and we've both been traveling through life with struggles. I can only pray that my symptoms will be acknowledged by the medical profession. Don't look back, just be thankful that you're much better off than you were several months ago and that there is medicine that will help! |
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6 May 2008 @ 10:00 PM
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| kelly tejada |
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Misunderstood
I hear your frustration. I have three boys and a husband with ADHD and I am just realizing that it has been a major issue in my life. Only recently has anyone taken medication. We have all just seemed to cope with all that ADHD challenges us with. That being said I am 36 years old and am frustrated with how my life has gone. All the attributes that girls exhibt with ADHD, I as an adult woman, have too. It is strange to realize after all these years that I might have ADHD. It makes me somewhat angry also. As women we are looked over and even as an adult most professionals in the medical industry only seem to diagnos boys. It is hard to be your own addvocate. I also like horses and being outdoors. After 55 years of living with something you did not understand it is going to take some time to figure out what path you should go down. |
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9 May 2008 @ 4:56 PM
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| Rhonda Pawlan |
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Never Too Late
As an ADD Coach, I frequently work with mid-life adults who have been recently diagnosed. Within reason, it is never too late to start doing the things you would like to do in your life. It's a matter of attitude and motivation. I understand how difficult it can be not to look back at the "could haves" and "should haves", but learning how to move in a new positive direction and growing in positive ways is always possible! If you're finding it very difficult to do this on your own, I'd suggest working with a well trained and experienced ADD Coach. You'd be surprised at the new you! Rhonda Pawlan, M.S. CoachMeRhonda.com |
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13 May 2008 @ 2:31 PM
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| Ted |
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Supportive responses
I'm happy to see so many supportive responses to your email. It's obvious that you've taken a big step to get help, and that's hard for most of us to do. i've never stayed home--but maybe i should have! I'm 62 & have been in "treatment" for probably 10 years. I:'ve struggled with relationships; money; jobs. It's never easy, but we have to keep trying & we have to support each other. I'm fortunate to have had some really loving people in my life, but i still make them mad. I think this article was helpful. Good luck. Don't give up. Ted |
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