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25 Apr 2008 @ 1:22 AM
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| Wishful Spirit |
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Unemployed and dealing with some mood swings
Hi everyone Early Feburary I was terminated from my job at a local call center. I'd been having trouble because policies on how to handle common tasks were changing very often, literally every few days (I'm not exaggerating). Unlike some people with ADD, I do not like constant change in my workplace, as I need a fair amount of structure to be productive. Then I started being resistant to new policies that required us to mislead customers and falsify records. I know now I should have walked out the second they told me to be unethical, but I didn't because I was too scared of loosing my job. I've since been told by friends who are still at the company -which was a sub-contractor- that the parent company is in the process of shutting them down. I'm not surprised and plan to have a tailgate party in their parking lot the day they shut their doors (they've already laid off half the staff). I got a new job, which I loved, in early April, where I lasted all of 7 days. I was told "we're letting you go...you're not getting it fast enough." Sometimes I feel pretty hopeful about my situation. I've done a lot of thinking and I am beginning to zero in on the type of job that would be a good fit for me, and I'm learning through my local Workforce Center about how to find a way into that type of job. But even though I do my best to keep a good attitude, I get depressed. Without a 9-5 work schedule providing me structure, I have trouble getting things done. I sometimes wonder if there is any job out there that doesn't have "detail-oriented" in the description. I worry that I'm going to ruin my credit if I don't get something soon. And I sometimes feel like I'm never going to succeed at anything. Given the economy right now, I know that lots of folks are in the same position. Does anyone have any tips for me on how to beat the blues? |
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26 Apr 2008 @ 5:54 AM
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| Lizzie |
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Get to know YOU
As a recently diagnosed ADD and a human resources consultant, I do understand your dilemma. I would urge you to use this time to understand yourself well so that you find a role that is both a great technical fit and a great persoal fit. Rather than trying to tame my ADD tendencies, I have found it much less stressful to work at something where it is an asset. However, to do that, I had to understand what particular traits were my 'deal breakers'. Well before I knew I was ADD, I knew I didn't fit in corporate structures so I became self employed. I have since realised that it wouldn't really matter what I did a long as it was flexible and I could work by myself with minimal interruptions. One ADD trait that I have used to my advantage is that I have tremendous energy at the beginning of a project. I now mainly work on very short term project s with clients who need a radical intervention. I can then get them sorted and leave before I get bored. Works for me - works for them! Don't get into the spiral of forcing yourself to do things that are against your type because the likelihood is that you will fail which makes you feel worse. Work with your strengths. BTW this is the same advice that I would give to NTPs - it's just that as ADDs we have some more obvious traits that we can't fake our way out of! I like to think of ADD as a different way of handling life - it brings some wonderful gifts along with some "challenging" moments. Good luck and don't get downhearted. |
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26 Apr 2008 @ 1:45 PM
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| Anni |
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Some Good Resources
Hi Wishful Spirit: Lizzie has some great advice, and it sounds like you are maintaining a pretty positive attitude in the midst of some tough circumstances. Here are a few articles I found that might offer some good advice/perspective: The Right Work for Adults with ADHD: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1497.html Secrets of Job Success for Adults with ADD: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1808.html Find the Right Job in 6 Steps: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd-web/article/1815.html Six Ways to Build Better Moods with Adult ADHD: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/678.html Why So Sad?: http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/748.html Hope this helps! |
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30 Apr 2008 @ 7:18 PM
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| Wishful Spirit |
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Thanks!
Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. I've tried a few of the things listed in the article on building better moods, and I found that "Green Time" and daily exercise have been the most helpful. The other day I was feeling so down it was like a physical weight on my chest. After 30 minutes of outdoor exercise, even though I had to force myself to get started, I felt almost normal again. I've exercised everyday since, outdoors whenever possible, and the depression hasn't come back. |
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