My wife, whom I love dearly but seem to have difficulty liking at times, is a perfectionist. In everything. I have my moments when I am. I have my moments when things work out, and the moon and the planets are lined up and I am able to follow one coherant thought to another and work on the list that is always spiraling out of control in my head without forgetting what number on that list I should be tackling now...but I often forget to do things or simply do them to the best of my ability and it seems that with her desire for perfection it's just never good enough. It makes me feel like a kid in my own marriage. I'm constantly doubting myself. All I get from her is that I should want more and that I should expect more of myself because I am a model for the kids and that when I give up and accept failure or mediocraty then I am teaching them the same thing. She's more liable to point out my failures and my shortcomings (regularly) under the pretense that she wants to "Help" me...and yet if she pays me a compliment its in a depreciative way...kinda like you would thank a kid...amused that you have to thank them for such a sophmoric effort or failed attempt, and letting me know that she's just not thankful or appreciative, and she could have done better. I am so lost with this...I recognize that we can't make excuses for ourselves and that we can't accept constant failure, but I don't need help beating myself up for failing to reach the goals that I set for myself, and I don't appreciate seeing our relationship devolve into a mother child relationship rather than a husband spouse relationship. Yet I can't see a way out of this and she won't go to counseling with me....AAARRGGGHHHH!!! what do I do?

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