My son 11 yrs. old, dx ADHD when he was 6. He has always had difficulties in school, but we could always work it out to his benefit. We started fresh with a new school this year. First few months were a dream kind-of..notes home from teacher said "he is such a joy to have in class! The sweetest kid! BUT he needs to learn to control his impulses to lash out when angry". So I asked for a conference with her and the principal just to discuss ADHD and how we can work together to help him help himself. Well that meeting left me with alot of questions because they just kind of skipped over everything I was trying to say. I started with talking to my son and he told me that a few of the kids picked on him and he would just "blow up when he couldn't take it anymore", so I told the teacher and principal about this and the teacher said "I have never heard them bothering him". My son said they would do it quietly, and of course when he blew his top she sure heard him. I believe my son when he says this. So we decided that next time it happens he is to immediately tell the teacher, so the next time it happened he tried to tell her..but she brushed him off. I guess he was the troublemaker by now. But he came home and told me, so I called the teacher to talk about it. She assured me she would watch them carefully. She must have done something because they left him alone. For awhile everything was quiet, parent teacher conferences came and went with no problem..he was happy, his grades even went up. Well last Thursday I got a phone call from the Assistant principal, my son and a few other boys were saying "inappropriate things" on the bus..overheard by the bus driver. The other boys just happen to be the same ones from earlier in the year...As many of you know some kids w/ ADHD are WAY too trusting, mine especially so..he really is a sweet kid. Well anyway he will be suspended off the bus for 3 days. O.k. that's fair, what about the other boys? "WE cannot discuss other kids with anyone other than their parents". Understandable. So everything was agreed upon, he was suspended off the bus. Well later that day the Principal calls , she says "upon further investigation, we have spoken to the other students involved and uncovered some very disturbing information about your son..please come right away" OMG! I 911 it all the way there, thinking 1,000 different things. So I get there and my son is in a desk there in the office facing the wall, the principal says come on into the office. She was "informed" that my son had said he would tie the teacher to a tree and shoot her with a paintball gun ..he admitted he said it during the interview with him and the other boys in the office, before that they had gotten his side of the story (this was before I even was informed of any of the current issues). They also said that he has threatened to "sneak into their house during the night while their parents were asleep like a ninja and kill them"..my son said he had only said that to one of the boys after one of the other ones has said the same thing to my son. After she informed us that "those boys have been in this school for 3 years now and I have NEVER had any trouble with them, so your son has a definite problem telling fact from fiction"..his punishment is 18 weeks in Alternative school...."we have people here in fear for their lives because of him"....I was too stunned to even think! Meanwhile my son is sitting beside me crying his eyes out. After we left the school my son hands me his report card that he had gotten that day. The grades were o.k. and his teacher had written " has beautiful handwriting and he is a great kid!" The next morning I couldn't stand it..I called the principal to appeal this decision, she informs me that his teacher had called her at home the night before "just devastated" about what is happening. "But at any rate I have already sent the packet to the alternative school, if I change my mind "which is doubtful" I will call you back after spring break. Again I brought up the problems my son had with these boys since the beginning and she said "well if he had made it an issue before we may have been able to do something about it"..OMG!!!!!!! Here it is 3 days later and I haven't been able to think about anything but this, I am beyond mad and there is absolutely no way I am sending him to an alternative school. I will be homeschooling him for the remainder of the year. And even better this principal is the District Superintendents Daughter...I feel I do not even stand a chance of trying to fight this.

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