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familiar feeling, you're not alone
Hi Mack,
Just want you to know, I know that "ugly duckling" feeling, I've had it all my life. Even at 50, I still don't like to see photos of myself, or look in the mirror other than shaving, etc. Probably the most we can do about that is to always have a nice haircut, and generally look well-groomed. Taking care of grooming helps you feel more in control of "appearances", no matter how we view our own appearance.
I think you're right about that spiritual connection -- particularly for us ADD folks, we seem to need "more" to engage our minds, and since the brain is what determines our feelings, seems like the need for "more" would follow into the emotional/relationship realm.
An idea for you -- have you considering using a dating website like match.com, chemistry.com, etc? The nice thing about a dating website is, you can get a sense for how a person expresses themself, whether they have a lot of interests or not, etc before you decide to say hello. That saves a lot of time, while in "real life" we can be attracted (probably physically initially) to someone, and end up going through the ego challenges of asking for a date, etc and only later finding out that you do/don't have much in common.
Hang in there, Mack, good times are ahead!
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