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29 Feb 2008 @ 12:41 PM
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| MystyMomOf2 |
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How can I get my son help at his school?
My son was diagnosed with ADHD last October. He had already been in therapy for "emotional problems" related to a lot of changes in his life. We started him on medication, continued therapy and even went to the school and had a 504 plan written up. Everything seemed okay but that last couple of months, my son has been acting out still. He's impulsive and had difficulty concentrating. The teacher sends home a folder every day with homework and writes a short note on a calender about his behavior. It's been everything from "seeking attention" to slamming a child's head in a door to falling out of his seat. I know my child isn't perfect but we don't have the agression at home with his 19month old brother or at his afterschool program. My ex even emailed the teacher and asked what excactly William was doing to seek attention. That was two weeks ago and she hasn't responded. I called her a week ago and asked for a parent-teacher conference. I sent a note two days ago and still haven't received a phone call. Today I went to volunteer at my son's jog-athon and asked the teacher when she'd be calling me. She gave me the run around. Then said that my son is having trouble with things he knew well earlier in the year and she thinks the medication is making him foggy. I stated that my ex and I just want to sit down and discuss where William is and see what more could be done to help him at school and home. She said "well I don't see how that would help, there's no magic solution." I was upset and stated that he didn't have these kinds of problems at his pre-school. My son's teacher replied, in front of another parent, that there is a kindergarten teacher at the school who worked at my son's daycare who said that William was worse there but that no one reported it to me. I was livid! I came home and called the school and left a message to have a meeting with the teacher and the principal. I don't understand a school where a child is having trouble in class with learning, talking out, and behavior, where the parents are involved and want to help the child but the school acts like it doesn't matter. How can I punish my child for behaviors that his teacher doesn't seem to be bothered by? If it was a big enough issue to write it down on a daily behavior calendar, then wouldn't be something that needs to be resolved? If anyone has any ideas on how to handle this meeting, I would appreicate it. I'm at a total loss. |
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4 Mar 2008 @ 11:57 AM
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| Errin (Mom of Cole) |
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help at school
Well, this is exactly what happened to me last school year with my son. He was in Kindergarten. The teacher was no help and when I tried to talk about the situation she gave me the run around too. I had many meetings with the school counselor and finally had a meeting with the assistant principal. Still, seemed like nothing was getting accomplished!!! Now in first grade, he has a wonderful teacher. She used to teach special education kids so..she is very patient. My son's teacher last year was so IMPATIENT. We were also doing trial and error with his meds last year and her input was very vital to me. But, as you can see we never got her help. It is very frustrating that these kids have to go through this already but to have a school or a teacher that doesn't support you is even worst. Let me know if you find out what could be done. I live in Louisiana and the laws may be different here with the school system. Just wanted you to know you were not alone. Errin |
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7 Apr 2008 @ 12:28 PM
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| lizeth |
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help at school
well i had the problem with my son he had a teacher in second grade that didnt know how to handle him he sometimes still do that by the way he usded to get up with out asking and act like the class clown and the teacher would get mad at him and my son told me one day that his teacher told him that he was going to send him back to kinder and thats when i startd knowing a change on my son self esteem he would always say he wasent good enogh and that he was dumb and that year he repeated first grade then the next year he was still getting in trouble alot and even got suspended but his teacher didnt gave up on him she told me that he might have adhd just by hes behavier she knew and helped me alot with him and the point of this is that there are teachers that are more into ther students then other teachers and if they dont help you with your kid well then go to the school district to see if they can help you cuz sometimes the schools just ignore the situation or they tell you that they are going to help you but they just want us as parents to stop bothering them and then they never have a answer for you |
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9 Apr 2008 @ 10:22 PM
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| Special Ed Assistant |
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from experience working in schools
Hello I'm a special education assistant, and I know that the first thing that is done in the district where I work is that they send someone in to OBSERVE the behaviour, objectively. The fact is, unless the teacher has SPECIFIC instances of the behaviour - which includes what happened before, during, after; the consequences... it's not valid DATA. You can't do anything from anecdotal notes that are vague. It could very well be the teacher has a way of responding to him. THe teams set up to deal with behaviour issues tackle things like that, and give the teacher input as how to respond to the kid so s/he DOESN'T go off... or at least try to minimize it. It could be that the teacher might need help in recognizing when your child is getting "geared up", and by informing him/her what to look for (behaviours, what sets him off) it will help. Also walking in with something written out helps too - how you deal with the behaviours - consequences. It might be that you need to set up a consequence plan - make sure you go over it with your child and they understand what will happen. Have it written out so when they have the meltdown (if they do) you have something visual and concrete to refer to... I don't know the issues, but I do know that many teachers are not trained to know how to deal wtih behavioural situations. I have a degree in psychology and have done my own studies on it, and that's what helps me out so much with my work. good luck. if you have any other questions, let me know. |
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15 May 2008 @ 1:40 PM
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| sunfire |
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504 plan
Our grandson has ADD. I was wanting to know if I can make my own 504 plan? We moved from Central Indiana a year ago the school he went to up there was great with him> I didn't have to make a 504 plan for him. we now live in ky. The school he goes to is not doing very good with him. I want to get a 504 plan for next year that the school has to go by. Can I do this my self ? please some one et me know.
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