Just wanted to mention that I've been really encouraged as well from reading the advice you all have given. I hope "Hypersnake" is feeling supported and it's helping him...(if you see this, Hypersnake, let us know how you and your family are doing, please! :)

A lot of you who've responded sound like such sweet people--the way you've made such effort to reach out to your husbands/wives is heartwarming to hear about. I'm proud of y'all for your successes, and I thank you all for sharing your experiences with us here.

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Tamantha, I want you to know that your words could have been written by me! "I have had to struggle to develop coping skills over the years that get me through my work life, and can be quite successful at work. I am very intelligent and can overfocus and get so much done. But, my house and car are almost always a mess. I know what to do, l but cannot carry it out when I am so exhaused after using all of my coping skills just to get through the day. I get to where I am afraid to invite people over. People usually think I have it all together until they get to know me more on a personal level and see the way I live. I feel the most sorry for my children. ... always rushing from this to that and lack the skills to show them how to keep themselves organized. Their school work suffers and I feel responsible. Their rooms are a mess and they cannot find socks or shoes in the morning and I feel responsible. More anxiety, more depression..."

Is there anyone with suggestions for how to get over all of this? I have been taking medication for depression for 5 years and for ADD for 2 years. My depression hasn't gotten better. The only thing going up is my prescription costs! I have recently been put on a second depression drug. My children are 17, 14, & 12. My husband and I cannot get them to do ANYTHING around the house. That js just as depressing! I stay at work to avoid the mess and fight at home. Can counseling help this? My kids will NOT do any structured, well-thoughtout system. They have been diagnosed as well with both of these nasty illnesses. I feel depression and ADHD have become monsters that my family cannot win against! Oh yes, my husband also has been diagnosed with both as well. It just makes us all feel hopeless!

But, my word for hypersnake is to have your wife go to meet your doctor and have a few talk sessions as well. She needs to read about, learn, understand, and advocate for you and this illness SO SO many of us suffer from.

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