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| Hypersnake |
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Tue 8th Jan 2008
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I give up...
I just cannot live like this anymore. I am depressed all the time. I love my wife and kids so much. I don't know why I cant seem to do the things she wants me to do. I just can't follow through on anything, which makes her frustrated then the things she says just bites at my heart tearing it apart. I honestly feel bad for letting her down, but like she says, how many times will i say I'm sorry? I think maybe my family would be better off without me. I have been married just under 11 years to my High School sweetheart. I guess love only takes you so far. I think I need to get a divorce. I love my wife so much, if I need to break my heart so that hers can be happy, then I think that is what I must do...Lord, Jesus, help me. |
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| badgerbear |
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you are not alone
Hypersnake, please know that you are not alone. I too, married my high school sweetheart, and had been married happily for 12 years. Throughout the end of 2006 and much of 2007, we had a rocky relationship. I had a heart attack in 2006, and afterwards suffered a clinical depression up until early 2007. I was feeling very much like you are today. I lost my energy, was overwhelmed by to-do list of important things, lost my sex drive, and couldn't seem to bring myself to finishing up anything. I was miserable. My performance at work nose-dived and I became irritated and angry very easily. At home, my relationship with my wife suffered tremendously. It took a personal friend to notice and told me I needed help. I went to see a psychologist. Just talking to someone ad being able to get it off your chest helped a lot. Reaching out to friends also helped a lot. Then my daughter was diagnosed with ADD, and looking at the questionnaire her mom and teacher went through, I realized that she got it from me. I read a lot about ADD and strategies for coping. The "So I am not crazy, lazy, or stupid" book made me realize what I have suspected all my life (I am 37) that my brain works differently, even though I had always done super well at school and work. It was a tremendous relief to have that realization. Your priority should be getting over the depression, because your brain can't think straight during this phase. Please give yourself a lot of break during the depression phase. I didn't take medication to overcome my depression, but looking back maybe I should have. Your psychologist will refer you to a psychiatrist if you needed a prescription for one. Once you start to work on your depression, you can take on small projects to create small wins and start feeling good again. Please don't give up on yourself or your marriage. The best gift you can give your kids is a mom and a dad who stay in a loving marriage. Another resource that I recommend is Retrouvaille (http://www.retrouvaille.org/). Even though it is church sponsored, it is not a religious program. Another thing that helped me was taking up yoga and meditation. I am not a regular practitioner but whenever I feel stressed I use the gentle stretches I learned and I feel much better afterwards. Good luck and keep us posted. |
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