Well, when he told me he had ADHD I was blinded by "love" and just knew I could change him or at least help him. This has been the most difficult relationship I have EVER had in my life. It's to the point now of getting to me and causing mental anguish and physical problems for myself. I have to do everything. Actually I think on top of ADHD he's lazy and uses the ADHD as an excuse. There is nothing he likes to do WITH me. He does little to help me with the housework and he finally has held down a job for more than 6 months. I am just at my wits end with this man. I can talk until I'm blue in the face and he says he will make an effort in certain areas and that's the last I hear or see anything about it. I just don't think the relationship is strong enough for me to be under the pressure I am constantly under living with this indecisive, lazy, hyper (yes, a person CAN be both at the same time) irresponsible, domineering, controlling man. He's sloppy and just plain doesn't care. He expects me to to work 12 hours, cook, clean, pay bills and EVERYTHING while he sits in his study on his laptop every hour he is at home and not asleep. He refuses to go to the doctor and get on medication. I don't know it's fair for anyone with ADHD to expect others to live with them like this. It's definitely a mental condition. "Oh...look at the pretty birdy".

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