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| crazkat |
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What do I do
What do I do when I feel like I can't do this. Raising my son who I love more than life, is so hard sometimes. He has ADHD, ODD and the doctor can't seem to figure out what else. As soon as we get something that works after a few months it stops. We do not have days without fights with his sister or blowups at both me and his teachers. I am so tired, I can't seem to help make it better. My son is 11 and as he gets older I don't know what to do. I know we all get this way once in a while, Someone tell me this is going to get better before he is 30. |
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| teacherninja |
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Keep Trying
And find a doctor who will keep trying. Find a different doctor just for second opinions. And don't forget about yourself. YOU need to take care of yourself first. The stewardess on the plane always reminds us to put the breathing mask over our own heads first for a reason. You can't help someone else if you're out of it. |
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| crazkat |
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Thank You
We have really been through it lately. I am tring to focus on other things like swiming lessions and working out we have rojoined the health club. That will be good for all of us. Thank you so much for caring enough to respond. |
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| pixieinoz |
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what do i do
hi crazkat i feel ya pain babe im in the same boat have my dear son 11 and dear daughter 4 and dear daughter 2 and am pregnant with number 4 my son is ADHD,i think ODD, has learning difficulties ,depression and food intolerances and over the holidays im exhausted he's been terrible and both dd's are copying there big vro so im not sure if its ADHD or learnt behaviour either with them my fieance is also ADD and has servier deppression i found that the kids tae bo helped my son or he would do a tae bo workout with me lol helped him but doesnt want to do it now well i just wanted to say hi and your not alone on this one be strong we can do it!!! natty:) |
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| goat |
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no power
Once you realize you have no power to help him .... well ther it is . You have to find places in his life were you can influence him . Give him free days off school . You can manage your mental health with days off , give him the same privlage . Dont look at him as the problem look at the problem as the problem . Declare War on his problems with him ! Don' t allow him to feel alone with his problem . |
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| crazkat |
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New Day
Well we are taking a break from public school (home tutor) for a couple of months while the school hires someone to be one on one with my son. I'm looking forward to the time together trying to think of things to keep him busy while not doing school work. Not sure how to keep things feeling equal between my daughter who will still be at school during the day. I will try to set aside special night times with her. Thank you all so much it is so nice to be able to have support like this. |
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| butterflymom |
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some suggestion
Have you checked your area for a support group? They are actually very helpful. In addition to learning more about the different disorders and ways to treat/cope, you also get to network and meet other parents going through the same things you are. It really is a wonderful resource. I have 3 kids, my daughter is 13 and has ADHD and anxiety and ODD which we are now reevaluating to see if it might be bipolar as it runs in the family. And then I have two boys ages 5 and 7, and there are many days I worry that the 5 year old has it as well. My daughter was diagnosed when she was 7 and it was and still is a very hard road. I just feel at this point I've learned a lot and want to help others, even though I am continually learning and far from perfect with her. Until last summer I was an active part of a support group and it was really helpful. But this last summer we moved to another state and I haven't made the time to find or start a group here, even though I know it would be beneficial. If you need help finding something I would be happy to help. I hope things work with his schooling. I know they need really structured environments to make the most of their learning and education. But at the same time, they need people to understand that sometimes they will make mistakes and will need help with redirection. Good luck and enjoy your time with him. They grow so fast and before you know it they won't even want you around. |
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| aseni |
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Learning is the key
Talk to your daughter about ADD. I am sure the most she knows about, the most she will be able to help to avoid conflicts. It is important to have help with your child. Take time out for yourself and let someone else help him with the organization. I know the entire family can do a contribution of time and support with his homework, reminders and organization. Put all the love in the first place (I know it's easier to say), then try to find the funny side of the problems. Some days are specially difficult (I am having a hard one today) but this site is a real terapy. Hope you feel better. |
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| crb |
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a coach?
Not sure this will help...I have an adult son with ADD and I sure didn't get ADD when he was younger- it still was a mystery and best "fixed" with meds. Now that I understand more about it, if I had to do this all over again, I'd have gotten him a coach (if I could have found one). No kid really listens to their parents, but it sure seems worse with ADD kids, so maybe someone trained to help ADDers can help. Keep trying- find different doctors, find a coach. Keep going. It's really hard sometimes, but it's what we have to do as ADD parents. Also, remember that we keep learning more and more about ADD and its accompanying issues (ODD, etc.). Keep learning all you can- I've found that has helped me the most. |
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| robinhelp |
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5 year old add
I have a son who is like so many of yours also , I feel alone, my husband blows up at me and we all end up in a fight . Don't know what to do, spend most of my free time crying and trying to do the right thing. I am afraid of having him taken away from us. He swears terrible and hurts me constantly and the same as some of you i feel like if i don't take care of it now, it will only get worse. HELP |
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| Elaine20 |
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what do I do
krazcat and robin help,
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