Well sister I hate to hear that your husband was an ensensitive jerk and divorced you all because your brain is wired differently . You should look at it this way, he didnt deserve you, to walk out on you and never even having a clue how your add and bipolar affect you, everything you went through . I myself am ADD , I took medication as a child first starting on the Ritlian and after about a month it, my mom took me off, because it just killed my appitite , then from there as I got older and into my teens I took the nurotten, tenex, Depitcoat, and then there was the patch Catopress, Oh i hate it, I gained so much weigfht from it and I was only 16 and at the time I was a long distance runner so packing on the weight and the running didn't work, so I quit it. Finally at the age of 17 I went off all my medications , even tho both of my parents were against it especially my mom. But after a while my mom just let it go because that's the kind of mom that she is. My dad didn't really even have a say so , because 7 months later I moved back in with my mom full time. IN OCt 2000 at the age of 19 the best thing happened to me, that would allow me to see the gifts that I poesess along with being ADD, I was pregnant, now I'll be honest the person whom i was with at the time wasn't the one for me , simple because he wasn't ADD, so there for he didn't really get me, to say the least our relationship was crazy and I felt very misuderstood. Then 3 months into my pregnancy I decided enough was enough and left him in the middle of the night, yeah i'll be honest it hurt like hell, this is not how it's suposed to happen, but the fact was he had played on my ADD , thinking I was just this retarted girl who would never figure out that he was just a con artest. In Dec 2000 I moved back in with my mom, yeah I was so inlove with this man who didn't appreciate me at all , so I moved out of my moms to be with him , well 3 months later I moved back into my moms and mentally trying to prepare for my baby. In May 2001 I gave birth to my son William , to say the least at first I struggled , simply because I was angry that his father was not being the man that he had been claiming he was . But every time I would look at William he would make me stronger , being a mother helped retrain my brain in many ways, I became more patient , focused better, not to menton the fact that I have not had a problem with finishing a task. So in a way my son saved my life. In sept 2001 I met the love of my life Jr who also suffers from ADHD , Bipolar and OCD , we've been together for 7 1/2 yrs now , but I won't lie to ya, we both came into the relationship with baggage of our own , Jr was dealing with a horible addiction to crack / cocaine, not to menton a disfunctional family life in general , That was 7 1/2 yrs ago . To say the least things are a little more different now, my husband has been clean and sober for going on 5 yrs now, his family is still disfunctional but all of them are clean and sober as well , thank god . None of it was easy tho . Jr and I have to work ten times harder in our relationship compared to non- ADD/ ADHD couples. The fact of the matter is you deserve a man who is going to understand you, and even if he's not ADHD, or bipolar himself, if he really loves you , then he needs to educate himself so he can better understand who your brain works, there for he understands you better emotionally and mentally , there he can connect with you on a much deeper level. . It's odvious that his man didn't really and truely love you or else he would have taken enishuative and educated himself woman with ADHD, and Bipolar so to better understand his wife , because honey it wasn't your fault he left you , it was his. He expected way too much from you and you can't have a marriage like that or any relationship for that matter. Just know that god has a plann for you , so go with it and trust him , because he'll never let you down. God bless you sister, I'll be praying for ya
20 Feb 2008 @ 10:57 AM
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