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10 Dec 2007 @ 6:09 PM
wwwwgts2000 Join Date: Mon 10th Dec 2007
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Gatherings w/ an ADHD Child

I am a single mom of two wonderful children a boy 10 and a girl 7. My son has ADHD and is medicated. I have been involved in a relationship now for 3 years. My boyfriend also has ADD but isn't medicated. He is for the most part very understanding of my sons ADHD but at times thinks my boy should act differently. Recently, we had a dinner party which wasn't a sit down at the table. It was a very relaxed atmosphere with many children running to and frow. However, my boy was the wildest of the 9 and that drove my boyfriend crazy. My boyfriend was very frustrated and felt I should of been doing something about it. I on the other hand was prepared for my son to be hyper. He wasn't being mean, breaking things or purposely being noisy. He was merely being a boy like the rest of them. My boy calmed right down after everyone left and said "that was the best time he has had in awhile". The next day my boyfriend and I butted heads on what he felt should of happened and what I felt should of. My thoughts were as long as he isn't being descructive, merely playing and isn't bothering the rest of the guests what is it going to hurt for one evening. Has anyone else had to deal with a similar issue? Should of I made my boy sit quitely and not participate with the other children? I sometimes second guess myself on what I should of done differently. Thanks Wendy

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11 Dec 2007 @ 11:34 AM Reply # 1
caitlin Join Date: Mon 12th Nov 2007
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Help for Gatherings

Hi,

While I can't speak from personal experience, I know gatherings can be tough on ADHD kids and their families. It sounds like your son had a good time though, which is half the battle.

Here are some ADDitude articles that may help your boyfriend understand your point of view, and that may help you see where he's coming from too. Plus, with the holiday season, I'm sure you will be attending more gatherings, and I think we can never have too many hints or tips for keeping things running smoothly!

House Rules for the Holidays http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/880.html

Keeping the Peace at Holiday Gatherings http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/2065.html

Hope this helps!

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11 Dec 2007 @ 11:47 AM Reply # 2
Marla Cummins, AD/HD Coach Join Date: Tue 11th Dec 2007
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Social Gatherings

As a single mom of a child with AD/HD, I know that it can be difficult. It sounds like you anticipated annd prepared for the event pretty well. It also sounds like your son's behavior was appropriate for the situation. It only seems that your expectations and your boyfriend's expectations were different. That is more an issue of communication between you and him.

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