I have an 8 year old with ADD and other undiagnosed problems. I have struggled with his emotional outbursts and his mood swings and I can only say to keep a notebook of what she eats, if she naps, how bad the outbrusts were and so on. This way when you talk to your childs' Dr. you will have a record of what behaviors upset you the most and the Dr. can properly address your childs' illness. It has helped me to understand my sons moods and when to anticipate when another one may arrise. Hope this helps.

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That is really good advice and I have just recently started doing that because I found I couldn't remember details when it came time to talk to professionals. It helps alot. I also just recently came in contact with a in home behavior management team who are working with us to develope better strategies to keep our family in a positive rhythm. I am excited and hopeful that this is going to help. Wish me luck!

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I have adhd.Diagnosed 1 year ago. Married, two kids one 14 with adhd

I have done a lot of reading in adhd, now reading driven to distraction. Medication is not an option, cannot afford it. My son is on concerta, and is doing well. Any natural medications that help, reasonably prices that anyone had tried. Keeping friends is difficult, I have went from job to job making errors with clerical office work. I now know it was my doing and stopped blaming my supervisors for my mistakes. I know have a day planner, I still miss appointments. Any tricks to managing everyday life without conflicts with peaple. I am open minded to change. thanks

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I am a single mother of two boys. My oldest son who turns 20 in November was diagnosed with ADD at about 10. He was on Ritilan for years then I stopped giving it to him. Many family members made me feel as though I was hurting him with the Ritilan. Just a few months ago I had him start taking Adderall because I just couldn't take it any longer. He started working and did good at first but slowed way down and couldn't ever keep up so they let him go. Next job, the same. Driving, I've been trying to teach him how to drive. He does good then he totally spaces. In the last 2 months we've almost been in 2 car accidents. Today was the second time actually. It just makes me cry because I don't know what to do. He's taking 30mg which is as high as they will go. I just want my son to live like others his age, drive, have a girlfriend, friends. He's yet to begin his life. I have no one to talk to about this. No one understands. Does he need different medication, different dosages? It seems that I am the one who is suppose to decide all this and I can't do it. Please help if you can.

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Have you considered an ADHD personal coach? Someone to help you set up systems to keep you on track in your daily life, someone to help you realize you natural brillent (yes, brillent) creativity, someone to hold you accountable to your goals and to cheerlead you on your way? ADHD coaching can be very helpful in all areas of your life, especially in hopping over the ADHD obstacle course. Yes...I happen to be one, but this really isn't a marketing ploy, just information only. There are MANY great ADHD coaches available. Good luck. Gayla

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Thank God!! I thought I was the only parent who felt hopeless with a difficult child. My son battles me daily and we ride that infamous roller coaster of love and hate. My 15 year old son rarely listens to me the first, second, or even third time when asked to do chores or share his feelings. I notice he responds differently to my husband and I am not sure if it is because I possibly could be ADHD or more emotional than my husband. I find it also difficult to allow my son to become his own man and not fix all his troubles with school and friends. Help from any parent of a teenage boy with the ADHD diagnosis.

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Research shows that ADHD tends to run in families, so there are likely to be genetic influences. Children who have ADHD usually have at least one close relative who also has ADHD. And at least one-third of all fathers who had ADHD in their youth have one or more children with ADHD. It is often seen that parents are diagnosed as having ADHD at the same time their child is diagnosed. And an even more convincing indication of a genetic role in ADHD is the fact that non-twin siblings of an ADHD patient have a 30% chance of having ADHD, and identical twins are at even higher risk!

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I feel your pain - my 10 year old son has ADHD and I struggle with outbursts, anger issues, and freshness/disrespect. A while ago, an ADHD therapist told me about a book called Magic 1-2-3 and how well it works with disciplining kids with ADHD. It is an easy book to read and you can implement the tips pretty easily and quickly. Of course, consistency is key and that is the hard part. Since he is too old for time outs, when he has an outburst, I take away a privilege. And since it is always better to praise a child with ADHD, than to yell, I try (notice I said try) to praise him when he's having good behavior or does what I ask the first time. It's a daily struggle - no doubt. I yell more than I'd like to, and I feel guilty/regret what I say. I also have walked away from the situation when I feel I get too upset. It does neither of us any good for both to be yelling at each other. Nothing gets accomplished. This has actually worked well for us.

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Remain calm, build on her natural gifts, and talents and find a way to give her the choices for behavior. If she wants to be a dancer, which would work better for her, eating junk or practicing? Give her choices. Focus more on the positives then the negative. Give clear brief directions with not chit chat and follow through with immediate concequence. Not out on time, not tv time...up to you, your choice no tv or game boy tonight if you choose to be late.

Just a thought. hope it helps. Learn more about sensory integration and you might have more insight to why you are having behavioral issues...sometimes there is a reason for the maddness. My daughter does no meds and Neurofeedback that and calm parenting with lots of rewards and true praise seems to help.

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What works for other kids does not work for ADD kids. For every negative a child needs 5 positives. You need to always confront the negative with a response that doesn't reinforce the negative behavior. For example your child threw something and broke it. A normal response would be to yell why did you break your toy? Your new way to respond would be to say, " I can see that your upset. What did you think or feel when you threw the toy." Nothing you just said to your child is negative. Now comes the hard part, finding 5 positives to undo that negative. ADD kids do not has positive self talk. This will be hard a first, some days you have to tell them you like the way they brushed their teeth. It gets easier. You just have to live in the moment like they do. When they are done with something, they are done. So you can't keep going back to a problem even if they keep repeating it. You have to treat it like it's new each time. This is where the reward system comes in.

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