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| Teresa Myers |
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Making Grand Parents Understand
Well we just got back from a week at my parents. we only see them a couple of times a year, so i think it is important when i have a chance to take the boys to visit. now it is boring for them because there are no kids to play with and not much to do really, but i take them nevertheless. my dad made a commit about my son with ADD and how he will Never finish anything in his life. this commit upset me very bad and i said so you think he will be a loser all his life? his reply was that he just won't ever finish anything. i told him that he didn't undersstand ADD and that it wasn't fair for him to make those remarks. he apologized but it didn't make me feel any better. how do i make him understand the disorder? how can i make him see the great kid my son is no matter what? has anyone had this problem with grand parents before? i love my parents and know they love my kids, but i don't think i want to put my kids through that any more and that is sad.
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19 Mar 2007 @ 9:24 PM
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| pilxey99 |
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If family members cannot accept your child, it's their loss
I have went through this. My husband and I have decided that if they cannot accept our child for who he is that is their problem. I have argued until I was blue about adhd/asd. My family look at me like I am bad parent (not all, but most of the family) some say let him be a kid leave him alone or if I don't do anything i am bad parent. I have tried to explain to them, but they will not listen. If it gets bad now we leave. We don't invite them to our home because all they would do is judge us and I am sick of it. My mother understands, but not my father and I have gotten into big arguments with him about it. I still go over and see them and I love them both dearly, but I will never apologize to my father on how I feel about my son and the problems my son has. I have tried to tell him about him and explain it the best way I know how, but he will not listen. I just wanted to let you know you are not the only one out there that have this problem with there families. Just remember you have a great kid and if they don't want to see that then their loss.
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24 Mar 2007 @ 2:32 PM
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| Barrie Price-Kerr |
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Famous ADDers
Ask your dad if he has ever heard of these people: Alexander Graham Bell,Col."Pappy" Boyington, Harry Belefonte, Dustin Hoffman, Bill Cosby, Winston Churchill, Andrew Carnegie,Kirk Dougals,Thomas Edison,Salvador Dali, Malcolm Forbes, Wm. Randolph Hearst, Dwight D Eisenhower, JFK, Abe Lincoln, Robt Kennedy,Eddie Rickenbacker, John D Rockefeller, Issac Newton and well the list goes on. All have ADHD and all have "finished" things (many great things)in their lives. Be supportive to your son and continue to hold up successful icons such as those listed so he doesn't get the subliminal message that he isn't good enough. Keep up the fight. your first worry is the things you can control and that is how your son perceives himself wrapped in ADHD. Either he feels like a special gift or a re-gift. It's up to you. Good Luck.
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24 Mar 2007 @ 5:01 PM
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Great list!
I need to copy this list for my husband! I never so many great people had ADHD.
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6 May 2007 @ 6:10 PM
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More famous ADDers
Other examples of famous people w/ ADD - this month's edition of ADDitude has interview w/ the mothers of Michael Phelps and Ty Pennington. In addition I've heard that Bill Gates won't speak in public because his ADD is bad enough that he can't keep his train of thought long enough to finish a statement. More to the subject, I'm sorry that your parents are having a hard time excepting your son for who he is. There are many challenges that come with ADD, but my son is so creative and energetic about the things he loves - there is much to be happy about too.
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24 May 2007 @ 9:53 PM
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| Rhonda Pawlan |
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Educate the grandparents
It's sad when grandparents can't accept any imperfections in a grandchild. In reality, there's no such thing as the perfect grandchild. It's just that some imperfections are less apparent, or considered more acceptable -- such as needing to wear glasses. The best thing I think you can do is to try and educate the grandparents. They probably do not have a good understanding about what ADD is all about. Maybe you could give them a book about children and ADD to read. If they truly love their grandchild, then I would think they'd be willing to educate themselves about attention deficit disorder. It would help them to become better grandparents to your child, as well as less frustrating to you! I wonder if there is even a book written especially for grandparents. You might try looking through ADDWarehouse.com as they carry a number of books. Rhonda AD/HD Coach
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