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Frank's an ex-TV writer, now sandwich-generation ADHD homemaker with a wife, two kids, a dog, and an eighty-something mother-in-law in a house that won’t stay clean. He writes here to try to figure out what’s going on there.

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Archives: April 2009

posted: Wednesday April 22nd - 12:00pm

ADHD Vs. My Big Trip, Part 4

In giving in to my frantic ADHD brain overload, I had lost my moorings - lost sight of what made my life mean something...

Okay, I’m at my desk, in my office hyperventilating and staring at our dog, Danny-Boy, who’s staring at me with his eyebrow cocked while resting his head on my desk. He lets out a big disappointed sigh. I’ve been running around the house upsetting him and my son with my panicky preparations for leaving on a trip to L.A. to open my show about...
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posted: Monday April 20th - 10:46am

ADHD Vs. My Big Trip, Part 3

I want to stop and appreciate my son and tell him how much he means to me, but the overbearing ADHD emotion of frantic urgency is still running things...

I hoped to wrap up this moment-by-moment deconstruction of my travel preparations this morning, but I’m late for rehearsal and I meant to write this last night, but I was fried after taking the wrong freeway while coming back to my friend’s house, where I’m staying while in L.A., after a meeting at the theater and laid on my bed going over what I forgot to...
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posted: Tuesday April 14th - 11:07am

ADHD Vs. My Big Trip, Part 2

I feel a panic attack coming on. I stop tearing apart the house looking for my packing list and try to relax, breathe, visualize...

Its 3pm - later than I thought. But that’s okay. Packing, getting on the plane and all the rest of that trip stuff is covered in the perfect, beautiful list calmly sitting on my desk, in front of me. I decide to leave it there and to walk, not rushing, out to the garage to choose a suitcase. I pass my son,...
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posted: Monday April 13th - 11:59am

ADHD Vs. My Big Trip, Part 1

In my mad rush to not panic over packing I’ve mucked up my packing list so much with arrows, boxes and underlines that it’s illegible. Start over. Change it all. Breathe.

I'm in my office furiously making a list when my twenty-year-old son, Harry, walks in. "Um, Dad, I was wondering about something..." "Look, I really can’t talk now, Harry. Maybe later, okay?" Harry muses about almost everything in existence and comes up with questions that I usually find interesting and enjoy talking with him about. But right now I’m busy freaking out because the day after tomorrow I’m leaving...
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posted: Wednesday April 8th - 1:44pm

A Year to Forget: My ADHD Birthday

In our ADHD household, even a 60th birthday is not sacred. Some things, it turns out, are not OK to forget...

My kids and I are always forgetting everything all the time, of course. But we figure in our house anyway, we’ve got a low-consequences zone going on. You forget, okay do it now, or say next time, or whatever. The point is to keep the drama down, which keeps the tension down which keeps the frustration temper flare-ups down for all of us. Both kids, awhile back...
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posted: Monday April 6th - 11:28am

Distraction Techniques & ADHD Empathy

It makes sense that since I bang around in the same kind of ADHD brain that my kids do that I’d naturally be extra empathetic and patient with them... right?!?

It’s last week, Friday afternoon – I’m on a deadline, trying desperately to finish an article that I’ve procrastinated even starting for days, and now it’s down to the wire. My wife and twenty-year-old son are at work and I’m home alone hunched over the computer calling myself stupidlazystupidstupidstupid when my thirteen-year-old daughter, Coco, comes slamming home from school. She grabs a banana from...
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