A respite weekend of doing absolutely nothing was just what I needed.
How I love respite weekends! Natalie spent the weekend at Aunt Ann’s, and I spent the weekend ADHD-free, and doing absolutely nothing.
That wasn’t my plan going into it, mind you. I meant to clean out the walk-in closet that Don and I share in our master bedroom. It’s been the catch-all for boxes, bins, and baskets full of papers, pictures, and junk needing to be sorted and put away, somewhere, for several years. It’s full of clothes that are worn out or stained or no longer fit. It needs a complete overhaul. But then, so did I--and I experienced an overhaul, of sorts, this weekend.
The weekend got off to a refreshing start on Friday night. After handing a happy Natalie off to Ann, I invited my brother and sister-in-law over for gin and tonics, stuffed mushrooms, and grilled veggie pita pizzas. We relaxed in front of our outdoor fireplace. We laughed so much and so loudly that I was afraid the neighbors would call the police.
Saturday morning I walked in Iowa State University’s VEISHEA parade, promoting the Iowa Chapter of the Gift of Adoption Fund’s upcoming fundraiser. (Shameless plug #1: The fundraiser is a special showing of the movie The Wizard of Oz, on the big screen at the Ames City Auditorium, Sunday, April 26, 1:00 p.m.--purchase tickets or donate generously at www.giftofadoption.org/iamovienight.asp!) I enjoyed seeing lots of people I knew along the parade route, including many of my former (sigh) bookmobile customers.
I whiled away the rest of the weekend reading, sleeping, eating, and with a failed attempt at figuring out the most basic formatting on my book recommendation blog. (Shameless plug #2: Reader.Writer.Reader.Writer.Reader.Writer.) I was so lazy that I even turned down a chance to help Victoria, Nat’s friend Harry’s mom, celebrate her birthday on Saturday night.
In other words, I accomplished little to nothing besides getting some rest. Ahhhh. Oh well, isn’t that what respite is all about?
By the way, some time ago I wrote about how the addition of some unrealistically time-consuming and expensive training expectations would cause our family to become respite-less beginning June 1st. It turns out those requirements were added by the agency administering our respite services. They are not new waiver requirements at the state level. We’re in the process of switching our respite services to a different provider, and they’ll take over administering our respite services starting May 1. What a relief.
If parenting a child with ADHD exhausts you, I highly recommend taking advantage of respite services, if available in your area. Check with your state’s Department of Human Services to find out more.