When Kristen Caven’s son was diagnosed with attention deficit, inattentive type, she had no doubt about where he'd gotten the gene. She writes about her creative and comedic ADHD family, being a patient mother with a brain built for speed, and her sudden enrollment in what she calls “ADD School.”

posted: Monday May 2nd - 9:30am

Compared to What?

Diagnostic questions can be confusing when ADHD is “normal.”

In my family, I’m the together one. I’m the one who shows up, completes a task, and makes the necessary connections to make things happen. I pay my bills (automatically, of course). I reframe negativity and keep people positive. I make amazing things happen in my life, when I put my mind to it. So when I was screened for ADHD, time after time, I had...
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posted: Friday February 12th - 11:57am

The Secret ADHD Test for Your Friends

Are your friends blessed with the Awesomeness Development & Happiness Directive? How do you tell? How do you tell them? And how can you help?

OK, parents, raise your hand if you have a friend who’s got a kid who is, you know, all those special things ADHD kids are, and of course so is your friend (which is probably why she is your friend, because you like the interesting ones), and you don’t exactly feel like you can say to her, “I bet you have ADHD,” because she is just...
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posted: Friday January 29th - 10:50am

Go Ahead and Treat Yo’self

A TV show meme teaches that ADHD hacking can be fun.

On the popular TV show Parks and Recreation, two characters make an annual holiday out of splurging on ridiculous luxury items. In my house, we started using their battle cry in the context of managing ADHD symptoms! I say, “Treat Yo'self” when I’m making a protein shake in the morning or taking my herbs and vitamins. I say it when my husband goes out for a run...
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posted: Thursday January 7th - 2:36pm

All in the Family

Ever wonder where your child got his ADHD from? You know where.

How many parents don’t figure out their disorder until they are parents? “Insanity is hereditary,” the bumper sticker says, “you get it from your kids.” Snarky, hilarious, but wait: Maybe it’s true. How come so many of us don’t accept the ADHD label for ourselves until after our kids get diagnosed? It’s because we think our kids are normal, just like us. For example: • When Enzo...
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posted: Tuesday December 29th - 10:14am

My ADHD Dad Sets His Phaser to Stun

When I helped my father move, I finally discovered that his attention deficit was the reason we often felt so disconnected.

Going back to our hometown is always a challenge for Enzo’s dad and me. Half of my generation relate to the chaotic ballet of a “Divorced Family Christmas.” At their best, holidays are exhausting because you have to pack in so many celebrations. At their worst, they are compounded with uncomfortable emotional challenges. If you marry someone whose parents are also not together, and also live...
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posted: Saturday December 26th - 2:50pm

Why My Kids Drink… (Wait For It)… COFFEE

My special COFFEE concoction makes our sons and daughters bright-eyed and bushy-tailed. Here’s how.

Most right-thinking adults will agree that coffee is a terrible thing for kids. Kids don’t need what adults need—a crutch to wake up, an afternoon pick-me-up, a kickstart for the mind, or an excuse for a “special moment” with a friend. Kids need to run around, nap, and get to bed on time. But the world of ADHD is an inside-out one, where “up” is sometimes...
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posted: Friday June 19th - 9:10am

A Date With Your Family

How we learned to not lose our minds and keep hope alive with e-z family meetings.

Somewhere around when Enzo hit middle school, we realized we needed to up our game if we were to keep up with the demands of a busy family of THREE. (Don’t laugh, oh you mighty mothers of many…! If you count my five careers and thrill-circus family of origin, it feels like more.) We had tried talking about our week every Saturday morning, or Sunday night,...
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posted: Thursday June 18th - 9:10am

Coach Me If I Fall…

Yes! You should get a coach! Or two! Or three!

I got the greatest letter from a reader the other day: I read your articles on and what you wrote REALLY resonated with me. My question is did you find a solution or help to manage life (especially your business)? I feel like I need help of some kind–a business coach or an ADD coach–something. But don't have a way to choose one from all the...
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posted: Wednesday June 17th - 9:10am

The Future's So Bright...

When your kid gets into a college that's right for them, you know you did something right!

Somehow, we did it. On the nail-biting roller-coaster-ride of high school report cards, my husband "Dave" and I had stopped taking for granted the fact that Enzo would go to college, even though that had been his goal, and our assumption, all his life. I had learned, in the struggle, that students with ADHD have the highest rates of dropping out of high school. We had learned to...
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posted: Tuesday June 16th - 9:10am

A Junk-Juggling Journey

An Italian Walkabout becomes an Italian Schlep-About if you travel while ADD.

So there I was out in the world on my own, something I’d dreamed of doing when I was in my twenties but could not seem, in spite of my facility with languages, to ever pull things together enough to achieve. There is something universal and romantically attractive about a Walkabout, where you just go out in the world and let your impulses take you...
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