When Kristen Caven’s son was diagnosed with attention deficit, inattentive type, she had no doubt about where he'd gotten the gene. She writes about her creative and comedic ADHD family, being a patient mother with a brain built for speed, and her sudden enrollment in what she calls “ADD School.”

posted: Friday June 19th - 9:10am

A Date With Your Family

How we learned to not lose our minds and keep hope alive with e-z family meetings.

Somewhere around when Enzo hit middle school, we realized we needed to up our game if we were to keep up with the demands of a busy family of THREE. (Don’t laugh, oh you mighty mothers of many…! If you count my five careers and thrill-circus family of origin, it feels like more.) We had tried talking about our week every Saturday morning, or Sunday night,...
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posted: Thursday June 18th - 9:10am

Coach Me If I Fall…

Yes! You should get a coach! Or two! Or three!

I got the greatest letter from a reader the other day: I read your articles on and what you wrote REALLY resonated with me. My question is did you find a solution or help to manage life (especially your business)? I feel like I need help of some kind–a business coach or an ADD coach–something. But don't have a way to choose one from all the...
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posted: Wednesday June 17th - 9:10am

The Future's So Bright...

When your kid gets into a college that's right for them, you know you did something right!

Somehow, we did it. On the nail-biting roller-coaster-ride of high school report cards, my husband "Dave" and I had stopped taking for granted the fact that Enzo would go to college, even though that had been his goal, and our assumption, all his life. I had learned, in the struggle, that students with ADHD have the highest rates of dropping out of high school. We had learned to...
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posted: Tuesday June 16th - 9:10am

A Junk-Juggling Journey

An Italian Walkabout becomes an Italian Schlep-About if you travel while ADD.

So there I was out in the world on my own, something I’d dreamed of doing when I was in my twenties but could not seem, in spite of my facility with languages, to ever pull things together enough to achieve. There is something universal and romantically attractive about a Walkabout, where you just go out in the world and let your impulses take you...
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posted: Monday June 15th - 9:15am

Listening for Inner Guidance

Making choices (not an ADHD strong suit) means figuring out what you need.

I haven’t sent a blog for a while. I got a little distracted! It boggles my mind how neurotypicals can just plan things and do them. For me, life always tends to take some interesting detour. I’m not sure if this is due to ADHD, but I know the universe responds to your thoughts… and like my father before me and my son after me, and so...
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posted: Friday March 27th - 9:00am

The Mid-Year Check-in

An interview with Dr. Adelaide Robb gives great guidelines for parents dealing with teachers…but takes an awkward turn, thanks to ADHD.

This fall, I was granted an interview with Dr. Adelaide Robb, a big-time psychopharmacologist with ongoing research studies in mood disorders, schizophrenia, and post traumatic stress disorder, and Chief of the Division of Psychology and Behavioral Health of the Children's National Health System, which aims to combine psychological and psychiatric services to treat the medically ill child. It was during that busy time of my son's senior...
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posted: Thursday March 26th - 1:32pm

The Fluid of the Brain

A visit to a craniosacral therapist and an introduction to an obscure but pleasurable—and highly effective—ADHD treatment.

In the scene in Young Frankenstein just before Dr. Frankenstein (as played by the hilarious Gene Wilder) turns the monster’s life around, he strokes the bewildered face of his creation (played by the delightful Peter Boyle) and cries out, “If I could just find a way to balance his cerebro-spinal fluid, he would be right as rain!” I burst out laughing (as one does, watching this comedy...
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posted: Monday February 2nd - 9:00am

Let Them Fail

The hardest part in getting help is letting your kid fail.

A 9th grade single mom called me, distraught. “I know my son has attention problems,” she said, “and I don’t know what to do.” She went on to describe a history of rat-nest backpacks, forgotten homework, impulsive decisions and other familiar-sounding struggles. My mind went back to those desperate ninth grade nights, when the red marks would start showing up on the online grading system. Until then,...
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posted: Friday January 30th - 9:00am

Guess What?! (Ta-Dah) You’re ADD!

At last, someone sees me through my own eyes.

The most amazing thing happened after I quit my out-of-pocket therapist who Just! Didn’t! Get! what I had been trying to tell her for a year. (That sometimes I don’t know who I am when I wake up on an unstructured morning. That I have trouble sticking to routines she suggests and my days get away from me, or that I’m overwhelmed by all the wonderful...
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posted: Thursday January 29th - 9:00am

You’re Not ADD (Part 6): You’re a Virgo

How many ways can you explain away your personality?

“I will always have this tension inside me,” I explained to my husband once, as we pushed our baby around the lake on one of our weekly walk/talks. “I’m a Leo/Leo Rising, with my moon and all my other planets in Virgo. I’m like a lion in a cage with all of this powerful artistic energy that can’t come out except through the perfectionist side of...
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