Helicopter Parent or ADHD Advocate?

Trust your instincts. That has always been my advice to new moms. Some might call me a helicopter parent, while others call me a great mom who advocates for their child diagnosed with ADHD. I see myself as doing everything in my power to give Hadley the best tools for a successful life.

I've felt like much of Hadley's frustrations and outbursts are in large part a result of "things that are harder" for her than her peers. Even after a teacher disagreed and said, "I think it is more her personality," it didn't settle well with me. Even if there is some truth there, how could this not all tie together?

I decided to get another occupational/physical therapy evaluation opinion. Hadley had PT until she started preschool last year — she no longer qualified for services. An evaluation had not been performed in almost two years. This recent evaluation showed struggles in many of the areas she did in PT at a younger age, along with some fine motor skills that impact her handwriting. The OT therapist, without my input, was able to report back on what I've long suspected but couldn't quite put my finger on. It was like she filled in the blanks and connected the dots.

Hadley represents so many children whose struggles are easily overlooked. When you look at her you may not immediately think she needs PT or OT. Some may suggest I'm labeling her by pursuing services for her. I can tell you I'm following my instincts.