The Popularity Contest Begins — But My Daughter's Only Seven

A new school year begins, and with it my concerns about accommodations and academics. My daughter has something else on her mind: being popular.
The Distracted Princess | posted by Sarah Kaczmarek
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One day a couple weeks ago Hadley asked me if I knew what popular meant.

I haven't blogged in some time. Really, we didn't have too many crazy things going on to blog about. After meeting Hadley's teacher tonight I wonder if we should have implemented more structure. We ended the school year on a positive note, and daycare this summer went pretty well.

I am anxious to see how this week goes. Twice I've asked her teacher if we should meet to review Hadley's 504 plan. She has a copy that has moved with her to 2nd grade. The teacher wants to make her own assessments prior to sitting down to review the 504 plan. This makes me anxious; I like to have a plan. Silly, I know, because things rarely goes as planned.

In addition to worrying about how Hadley does in the classroom, my radar is up for bullying and teasing. One day a couple weeks ago Hadley asked me if I knew what popular meant. She told me a little girl at daycare (and classmate) told Hadley that she was popular and Hadley isn't. That means they can't play together anymore.

Who decides these things? And at 7 years old? I'm sure Hadley isn't always a sweet angel, but I can tell you she didn't know what popular meant until it was explained to her by this little girl. Overall, she just wants to be friends with everyone. I see this as the beginning of a long road. I don't care if Hadley is "popular," I just want her to be spared the pain.

With all we know about the damage bullying does, I can't wrap my mind around the idea that it still occurs, and among kids so young. I told Hadley that being popular isn't important. What is important is being kind to one another.

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