Wanted: Career Confidence

I have been out of work for six months now. When I see a job opening, I talk myself out of applying for it. I have low self-esteem because of my past failures and being jobless for so long. Help.
The Experts | posted by Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D.
A job-seeker in a shirt and tie sits by the phone and prays for it to ring.

Realize that prospective employers will reject you, and don't run away from it.

Getting a job requires you to sell yourself enthusiastically. Many people who have been diagnosed with ADHD can recite their symptoms backward and forward, but they have a difficult time selling their strengths and skills. Define yourself by your strengths and understand that ADHD does have its gifts — creativity, exuberance, empathy, emotional sensitivity, and a strong connection to nature.

> When I coach clients who are searching for a job, we adopt the motto of Seal Team Six, the elite military unit: "No Easy Day." A job search requires you to face constant rejection and to do work that doesn't tap into an ADHD person's strengths — attention to detail in the application process and constant follow-up. Realize that prospective employers will reject you, and don't run away from it.

> The best job-search tool is LinkedIn. Sign up and increase your connections, join groups, and "network up." Connect with people who are in a position to help you.

> For every job you talk yourself out of, challenge yourself to write down three reasons why you could get the position.

—Lara Honos-Webb, Ph.D., author of The Gift of ADHD and The Gift of Adult ADD

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