Adult ADHD Blog (A Woman's Perspective)

Me, Myself, and ADHD

Thu, 26 Jan 2012 20:51:43 GMT

I'm tired of the Hong Kong adventure. I want out. But what if it's not this city? What if it's me? How can I keep running from my ADHD self?

Adventure? Or ADHD Avoidance?

Mon, 16 Jan 2012 17:45:15 GMT

Guiding a group of 40-plus college students through Asia, I feel lonely, scared, and sick about avoiding the to-do list at home that promises to help me reign in my ADHD.

This Year Will Be Different. Right?

Wed, 28 Dec 2011 16:26:00 GMT

I return home for the holidays to learn that life did not pause in my absence. Friends have moved on and moved up. Will this year's resolutions help me do the same?

Where Is My Wonderful Life?

Mon, 19 Dec 2011 20:30:49 GMT

This isn't the 36th Christmas I'd imagined for myself. Missing are the Norman Rockwell home and picket fence. Missing is the Prince Charming. Missing is the sense of being appreciated... and loved.

ADHD Destiny Vs. Self-Determination

Mon, 12 Dec 2011 18:11:47 GMT

"One does not make the wind blow but is blown by it." This ancient Asian proverb seems so sadly appropriate as I surrender to my ADHD fate after 36 years. Or will I?

My Tragic Aria: Can I Re-Write This ADHD Opera?

Mon, 07 Nov 2011 21:39:52 GMT

When the soaring high notes of my life come crashing down into gut-wrenching, ADHD-fueled sorrow, I know that I alone can change the tune. Or can I?

ADHD Fairytales: Do I Deserve a Prince Charming, Too?

Mon, 24 Oct 2011 20:20:12 GMT

My younger cousin's recent engagement has sparked in me feeling of ADHD inadequacy and loneliness. Will I ever find a prince who can love me because of -- or in spite of -- my ADHD?

Dim Sum For the ADHD Soul

Thu, 13 Oct 2011 14:40:54 GMT

In Hong Kong, I've found dumplings, wife cake, and milk tea. Yet in this city of precious few English-speaking therapists, I feel I am starving, wasting away without treatment or support for my ADHD.

The Thrill Is Gone... Again

Fri, 07 Oct 2011 14:03:21 GMT

The thrill and the excitement of swimming are lost for now, and I am left desperately trying to recapture them, wondering if the ADHD has once again snatched away something I loved dearly and that kept me sane.

Who Will Accept Me as an ADD Adult If I Can't Accept Myself?

Thu, 22 Sep 2011 21:16:50 GMT

Searching for a reason for why I don't fit in at my new job and why no one from my old job keeps in touch, I begin to wonder if it's them, me, the unusual place I'm in in my life, or because of the ADD/ADHD.

How Do You Keep From Being Socially Isolated as an ADD Adult?

Tue, 06 Sep 2011 21:11:18 GMT

I've tried hard to make contacts in my new community, but all of the connections seem to fizzle, no matter how hard I try. Is it me, the ADHD, or something else?

A Year After Losing My Job and My Home, I'm Still ADDrift, Without a Permanent Address

Fri, 26 Aug 2011 09:45:50 GMT

As an adult with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD), is it possible to achieve a stable home life?

Trying to Hold Down a New Job as an Adult With ADD/ADHD

Mon, 03 Oct 2011 04:01:38 GMT

With a spotty work history -- thanks in part to ADD/ADHD symptoms, like disorganization, impulsiveness, and lackluster listening skills -- I'm more hopeful than ever to keep this new job.

Five Years After My ADHD Diagnosis, Has Life Improved?

Fri, 08 Jul 2011 19:07:09 GMT

On the fifth anniversary of my ADD/ADHD diagnosis, I'm taking stock of my life, my ADHD acceptance, and what my next career move should be.

Does My ADHD Push People Away?

Fri, 17 Jun 2011 23:25:48 GMT

As I continue to struggle with my relationships and my career path, I wonder if my symptoms -- a mix of anxiety, depression, ADD/ADHD, and OCD -- are pushing people away.

Meditation for ADHD Relaxation

Wed, 25 May 2011 15:55:03 GMT

When a friend asked me to go on a meditation retreat, I hoped it would provide some much-needed relief from my ADD/ADHD symptoms and help me relax and focus. If only I hadn't been so distracted and bored...

Facebooking My Way to Low Self-Esteem?

Wed, 11 May 2011 18:07:24 GMT

Lately I’ve been an avid player of the comparison game. Perhaps this is part of being 35 and realizing that I’m closer to the big 4-0 than the less-daunting 3-0. Maybe it comes with being easily able to monitor what my peers are doing -- and how well they're doing it -- thanks to Facebook and Twitter.

My Boyfriend Couldn't Stand My Symptoms, or The Story of My Valentine's Day Breakup

Wed, 27 Apr 2011 19:48:36 GMT

I wasn't sure if I was into him. And turns out he was sure he wasn't into me or my attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) symptoms.

ADHD Medications: Can't Live With Them, Can't Live Without Them?

Wed, 06 Apr 2011 14:51:13 GMT

I've been taking Adderall again to help with my ADHD and anxiety and to regain control over my symptoms after making an embarrassing mistake that almost jeopardized my job. But the medication's side effects, which include nightmares and sleeplessness, are hard to handle.

Is Mr.-Right-for-Everyone-Else Mr. Wrong for ADD Adults?

Wed, 09 Feb 2011 16:23:00 GMT

I know how to fall in like and love, but staying in love is another matter. Does the adult ADHD brain want one kind of relationship and the heart another?

ADHD Is My Big Secret

Tue, 01 Feb 2011 16:30:36 GMT

The last time I told a lover about my ADHD, he broke my heart. If I can find the courage to tell my new guy, will he prove himself trustworthy?

How Do You Handle E-Mail Overload?

Fri, 28 Jan 2011 17:15:23 GMT

Once again, I have collapsed under the weight of a Mount Everest of e-mails.

Every Day Is New Year's Day in ADHDland

Tue, 25 Jan 2011 22:39:29 GMT

In the post-New Year’s champagne-popping hangover, I decided to skip New Year’s resolutions and have chosen to reflect upon what I’ve learned since leaving Gotham for Asia last fall.

Battling the Birthday Blues

Wed, 15 Dec 2010 17:09:25 GMT

An approaching birthday reminds me how unstable I seem for my age. But who's putting more pressure on me to conform to a "normal," "successful" lifestyle -- me or the world around me?

Trying to Live in the Moment With ADHD

Sat, 20 Nov 2010 22:06:58 GMT

Lost love and failed employment from my past life continue to haunt me in Asia. Did I make the right choice to work abroad?