Jane D., a 30-something professional writer and student with ADHD, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives, works, and studies in a big city on the East Coast.

posted: Thursday October 23rd - 7:49pm

A for Effort, F in Focus

Work Evaluation, Succeeding on the Job with ADHD
“It’s interesting. I’ve worked with students who are dyslexic before. And yet I’m not sure what it is. I think you are just wired differently. It’s as if most people go from point A to B, and you go in a wide circle. I mean, you still get there in the end, and in fact you do it wonderfully. You have that sparkle that not everyone...
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posted: Tuesday September 2nd - 1:55pm

I Do...Have Wedding Jitters

Jane D. Wedding Dress
The summer has been rough — I've been juggling a quartet of part-time jobs to feed the rental beast. And, oh, yes, I’m getting married. Planning a wedding in a long-distance relationship is an art in itself. We are now less than one week away from the big day, yet the checklist of tasks I'd thought were long done are not. There are last-minute cancellations from a...
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posted: Wednesday June 11th - 4:42pm

Wedding Planning the ADHD Way

Wedding Planning, the ADHD Way
Welcome to the world of wedding planning the ADHD way. The ADHD me wants everything done at once, but often doesn’t know where to start — and as everyone knows, the modern-day wedding can involve a bajillion things to do. My mind often leaps from beach wedding to Vegas wedding to winery wedding, only to have the fiancé stop to remind me that we’ve already signed...
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posted: Thursday June 5th - 1:02am

Falling into Focus

Jane D. Hanging Courage Mobile
Just when everything was going so right, everything has started to go so wrong. The lump is back. I found it in early April this time in the upper corner of what could be breast or chest. The position was debatable but close enough to the original cancer spot where it was breast, and it’s not going anywhere. Not again. Such dumb luck. WTF. I’ve never been...
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posted: Sunday March 23rd - 8:52pm

Here Comes the Bride, with a Bajillion Lists

ADHD Marriage Effect for Jane D.
There should be an Idiot’s Guide to Wedding Planning for those with ADHD, and if there isn't I'm prepared to write it. How did I get here? How did an ADHD woman get so far up the aisle, so close she can hear the champagne bubbles and smell the wedding cake. Seemingly overnight the romantic drought has transformed into an oasis. The relationship with the boyfriend took...
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posted: Monday February 3rd - 12:58pm

Imperfect and Lovable

ADHD and marriage
Stranger things have happened in ADHD land than finding love when one is just about to throw in the towel. I've spent many a post writing about the search for a soulmate, my litany of dating disasters, and more recently being resigned to the idea of my spinster status. And then, just when I least expected it, there was Cupid. Over the past two seasons I’ve had...
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posted: Sunday January 5th - 10:03am

New Year's Bah Humbug

New year, new you, 2014
Been there, done that, the whole New Year's resolution thing and the checklist. Let's not get started — there are hundreds of checklists from New Years past some written on pretty stationery and now buried someplace among my clutter in the parents' home. Don't get me wrong — I love resolutions as they offer such a sense of promise and permanency. There's always the excitement of starting...
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posted: Wednesday December 4th - 2:07pm

Flying through Life by the Seat of My Pants

therapy session, ADHD treatment
Uh-oh. It is happening again, this feeling of unrest and angst. I am now nearly two months into this life-changing chapter, the mega adjustments of making this bicontinental move, going from working professional to student, juggling a life that now includes shopping, cleaning, and budgeting. On some days it goes swiftly and I can reflect on a week and say, "Wow I did it on my own,"...
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posted: Wednesday October 30th - 9:40am

Back at School — and Back in Limbo

Piles of Books
I've been able to exhale (however briefly) from my Ph.D. program's Everest of readings and paper assignments. My classmates are surprisingly around my vintage, married with kids, and I wonder how they do it. How are they able to juggle assignments, tests, readings, work, spouse, and kids while getting the oil changed, the groceries purchased, the cat fed, getting sleep and still remaining sane? They all seem...
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posted: Friday September 20th - 8:17am

Back to the Chaos of College

I'm going back to college, and slightly overwhelmed — this large university feels like a different planet.

On the open road - Jane D.
The great ADHD challenge starts now. After closing the chapter in Asia, after making a bi-continental move, I am back on a college campus again. It has been two decades since I was a freshman and a decade ago since I’ve been a student and I might as well be on Mars. The atmosphere never felt so strange and overwhelming. I am in the sunset of...
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