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Jane D., a 30-something professional writer and student with ADHD, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives, works, and studies in a big city on the East Coast.

posted: Sunday March 23rd - 8:52pm

Here Comes the Bride, with a Bajillion Lists

ADHD Marriage Effect for Jane D.
There should be an Idiot’s Guide to Wedding Planning for those with ADHD, and if there isn't I'm prepared to write it. How did I get here? How did an ADHD woman get so far up the aisle, so close she can hear the champagne bubbles and smell the wedding cake. Seemingly overnight the romantic drought has transformed into an oasis. The relationship with the boyfriend took...
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posted: Monday February 3rd - 12:58pm

Imperfect and Lovable

ADHD and marriage
Stranger things have happened in ADHD land than finding love when one is just about to throw in the towel. I've spent many a post writing about the search for a soulmate, my litany of dating disasters, and more recently being resigned to the idea of my spinster status. And then, just when I least expected it, there was Cupid. Over the past two seasons I’ve had...
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posted: Sunday January 5th - 10:03am

New Year's Bah Humbug

New year, new you, 2014
Been there, done that, the whole New Year's resolution thing and the checklist. Let's not get started — there are hundreds of checklists from New Years past some written on pretty stationery and now buried someplace among my clutter in the parents' home. Don't get me wrong — I love resolutions as they offer such a sense of promise and permanency. There's always the excitement of starting...
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posted: Wednesday December 4th - 2:07pm

Flying through Life by the Seat of My Pants

therapy session, ADHD treatment
Uh-oh. It is happening again, this feeling of unrest and angst. I am now nearly two months into this life-changing chapter, the mega adjustments of making this bicontinental move, going from working professional to student, juggling a life that now includes shopping, cleaning, and budgeting. On some days it goes swiftly and I can reflect on a week and say, "Wow I did it on my own,"...
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posted: Wednesday October 30th - 9:40am

Back at School — and Back in Limbo

Piles of Books
I've been able to exhale (however briefly) from my Ph.D. program's Everest of readings and paper assignments. My classmates are surprisingly around my vintage, married with kids, and I wonder how they do it. How are they able to juggle assignments, tests, readings, work, spouse, and kids while getting the oil changed, the groceries purchased, the cat fed, getting sleep and still remaining sane? They all seem...
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posted: Friday September 20th - 8:17am

Back to the Chaos of College

I'm going back to college, and slightly overwhelmed — this large university feels like a different planet.

On the open road - Jane D.
The great ADHD challenge starts now. After closing the chapter in Asia, after making a bi-continental move, I am back on a college campus again. It has been two decades since I was a freshman and a decade ago since I’ve been a student and I might as well be on Mars. The atmosphere never felt so strange and overwhelming. I am in the sunset of...
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posted: Thursday September 5th - 12:20pm

Bon Voyage, Bonne Chance

Saying goodbye, traveling
I am all over the place, packing and repacking luggage, surrounded by a mountain of stuff — clothes, greeting cards from loved ones, kitsch from travels — that I’ve accumulated over the past three years. “Moving is a moving experience,” I repeat like a mantra as I fold and stuff. In other words, this sucks. On the other hand, it's cause to celebrate. This stay is one...
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posted: Wednesday September 4th - 10:38am

My Life in Lists

Writing a list, to-do list
A new disease surfaced a couple of months ago sidelining my ADHD — this time breast cancer, albeit stage 0. I feel cursed and blessed. I’ve had the lump removed and am now going through a round of radiation. This is serious, so serious that I am not taking this too seriously (or trying not to). With the new illness, I have also transformed into a...
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posted: Friday July 19th - 3:28pm

Lemons and Lemonade

Making lemons into lemonade
There is never a dull moment here in ADHD-land. When things get too, dare I say boring, fireworks emerge. The newest crisis, or "challenge," is the lump I discovered in my left breast. Up until now my problems and crises have related to the emotional seesaw of ADHD, to trying out various remedies to control the symptoms, to struggling to get loved ones to see my...
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posted: Friday June 14th - 10:19am

Forgetting and Regretting

I forgot to follow up when I found a mysterious lump. What that might mean makes attention deficit suddenly seem benign.

Ever since I turned a birthday in December, the health issues have been popping up like cockroaches out of woodwork. Just when one issue is seemingly placed on the back burner, something else surfaces. Never a dull moment. This time it is a lump in the breast, actually first discovered a year ago, circa 2012. But then the lump seemingly disappeared and reappeared again. The lady doctor,...
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