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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: October 2010

posted: Wednesday October 27th - 10:00am

Unemployed and ADHD, I Follow a Lead for a Freelance Job...On an Impulse That Feels Right

Life with ADHD is constantly changing. For me, change has started to feel like its own kind of stability.

As I type this, I am sitting in the airport. I have a plane ticket to Shanghai in my bag. I could have spent the money on sessions with my shrink, but I am much happier with this decision. In order to survive, at least emotionally, I had to leave New York City. And, with a little luck, this trip will lead to a paying job...
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posted: Saturday October 23rd - 11:00am

Letting Go of Relationship Clutter

As an adult with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD), organizing is a challenge. After breaking up with my boyfriend, memories and mementos filled my apartment and my mind, but I'm slowly sorting through the clutter.

Tired of the shoulds and should nots, I decided to give relationships a hiatus. Left alone, I had time to slowly take inventory of my life. Over the summer, I spent time doing something that I don’t usually do -- getting rid of some of the clutter in my life. I Windexed the windows, Swiffered the floor, and vacuumed the dust bunnies. I...
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posted: Friday October 22nd - 11:00am

Adult ADD Makes It Hard to Forgive Others, But Are We Hardest on Ourselves?

I should have. I shouldn't have. I beat myself up with those phrases, blaming myself for so many of my relationship problems, but should I? There I go again.

It's my experience that adults with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) are kindhearted and would give the shirt off of their backs to strangers in need. But being so giving has its limits -- even in the ADD/ADHD world, particularly when it comes to forgiving. If I have been able to come to terms with my personal history -- a convoluted childhood filled...
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posted: Thursday October 21st - 11:00am

Adult ADD: Is It a Handicap or a Gift?

I know that as adults with attention deficit, we're supposed to be our own advocates, spreading awareness of and taking comfort in the condition's positives. But it's a challenge sometimes.

During this chapter of my life I am convinced that attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD) is more of a handicap than a gift, and my cynical self wants to ask what are the benefits of being scatterbrained and unstable? (How long can I live this life -- with my moods, fears, hope swinging back and forth in a pendulum fashion?) What is the benefit of this...
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posted: Wednesday October 20th - 8:00am

ADHD Makes Adapting to Change Difficult, But Not Impossible

Even though I compete in triathlons, because of my ADD, I've never gotten very good at transitioning from one difficult task to the next.

In a triathlon, the time between a swim, bike, and run is called the transition. This is the time when the swimmer, as quickly as humanly possible, swaps her swimsuit for sneakers and takes off for the next leg of the race. I've never been very good at transitions, literally and figuratively. From the end of the swim to the point of handing the baton off...
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posted: Thursday October 14th - 11:00am

What's an ADD Adult Supposed to Do Without a Home?

The threat of an eviction throws my unstable life into further chaos. Can I cope?

As if the yo-yoing of the job and the string of insane relationships weren't enough, then came ApartmentGate (which spells crisis): The end of living in the penthouse.  It began when my landlady, who'd moved down South, dropped in unexpectedly for a seemingly friendly visit. Over wine and sangria, I pointed out that it had been almost a year since a mutual friend...
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posted: Friday October 1st - 11:00am

Waking Up Is Hard to Do...When You Have Adult ADD

Read my review of an alarm clock designed for the adult ADD mind. Plus, find out how you can win one to help battle your own get-out-of-bed issues.

Waking up can be tough for a night owl with adult attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADD/ADHD). I am the master of Web surfing, magazine flipping, and chatting on the phone past midnight. So I was skeptical when I heard about My Wake Up Call -- a motivational clock that uses inspirational messages as an alarm. Prior to My Wake Up Call I had tried a variety...
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