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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: January 2010

posted: Wednesday January 27th - 12:09pm

ADHD Relationship Communication Fears and Flaws

I try hard to communicate my needs in my relationship, but the harder I try the greater of a mess it becomes.

If intuition is such a powerful gift then why do I feel that on one hand my intuition is as sharp as a dog's, and on the other hand it is totally off base. My gut sense about The Boyfriend and the new ADHD boss remain ambiguous. They are as hard to read as Greek. I try hard to communicate to them my needs, but the...
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posted: Tuesday January 26th - 12:00pm

Coping With ADHD and My Personal History

My ADHD doesn’t just bring every day challenges, but the challenge of overcoming an already dark past mixed with a lot of anger.

Aside from my ADHD there is a greater demon -- a checkered past. The history starts with my mother. For whatever reasons she was never there when I was growing up. Maybe it was my sister who was born sick and required two kidney transplants, maybe it was her own disorder. Whatever the reason within the entire tsunami of issues, my problems and issues were overlooked. I...
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posted: Monday January 25th - 11:48am

Fear of Rejection in an ADHD Relationship

The truth about my ADHD sits at the tip of my tongue because I am greatly fearful of being abandoned.

Despite all of the self-talk and the one-on-one with the father, I haven’t been able to muster up the courage to tell the Boyfriend about the ADHD. Maybe there is too much anger and pain woven into this four-year battle of trying to solve a disorder that has the frustration of reigning in wild mustangs. By nature a wild mustang needs to be set free and...
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posted: Friday January 15th - 11:04am

The ADHD Texting Queen

I fire off text messages as fast as my ADHD brain can create them.

The new ADHD boss, aka Chatterbox Boss, is forcing me to accept this new Palm Pixie thing. At first it sounded like a great idea. What's there not to love about getting that new Palm. Bring it on. I used to equate the complexity of the work gadget to the importance of the person at the company. So Chatterbox Boss starts telling me about the gadget...
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posted: Wednesday January 13th - 1:02pm

There's a New ADHD Boss in Town

There's a new boss and he claims he has ADHD.

There is a new boss. He came in from left field several weeks ago, and serves as "the Great White Hope" and a shield to my colleague and I from the top She-boss. He is as middle America as Wonder Bread, and kind of resembles the Pillsbury Doughboy. He's as energetic as an overeager puppy, and from day one he whirlwinded in and amongst the pile...
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posted: Tuesday January 5th - 2:35pm

ADHD, Tongue Tied and in Love

I still can't bring myself to fess-up to the boyfriend about my ADHD.

Spent New Year's with the boyfriend. We braved the winter chill by holing up in the apartment with DVDs, popcorn and the promise of a new year. For the first time in a while I didn't think about resolutions. In the adult ADHD world, every day has the feel of New Year's--promises made and promises broken. Despite all of the holiday cheer and festivities, inside a...
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