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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: September 2009

posted: Monday September 28th - 9:57am

ADHD Skeletons in the Closet

What's life with adult ADHD like? Well for starters, my mind is like a 250-pound woman who is sluggish and needs to shed the weight.

The apartment is suspended in the air on the 16th floor of one of the ritziest zip codes in Gotham. The one bedroom feels like a palace compared to the trailer park in the 'hood, spacious, with a grand view of expensive high rises. The doormen know my name and ask me if I need any help with the groceries. I shake my head "no" and...
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posted: Saturday September 26th - 2:33pm

Dodge Ball in Cubicleland: The Struggle to Organize with ADHD

An adult with untreated ADHD lands a position that demands of her multitasking and prioritizing. The whole thing is laughable, and I wonder how I will survive this job.

ADHD at Work: Looking like Eeyore on the job.
I feel like a fourth grader in gym class all over again. I can see it so clearly in my mind when I close my eyes. I am standing against the wall clinging on to dear life as an entourage of classmates throw rubber balls at me. I try to dodge, duck, and avoid a travesty, and it is exhausting. I run around in a circle...
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posted: Monday September 21st - 4:11pm

ADHD Commitment Phobics: When to Press the Panic Button

Like countless other adults with ADHD, I’m drawn to the chase—and quick to misread signals in a relationship.

Once again I feel like I am spinning wheels when it comes to love. The new suitor, Sensitive Guy, is a tough read, although he says things that are obvious. The words aren't matching the actions. On one hand, he has proclaimed his love for me. He burst into tears after we watched "The Time Traveler's Wife" together, and then again during his latest visit, when...
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posted: Thursday September 17th - 10:57am

ADHD Relationships and Reading Cues

The psychotherapy and medication for adult attention deficit disorder take a back seat, while the personal life reaches new heights.

The Sensitive Guy is a chatterbox. Every other night he calls and we are on the phone three, four, sometimes five hours (and I am the adult with ADHD). Time flies, and he laughs and listens to everything I say. I wonder if it is because he's lonely, I mean he just moved to a new city, new job, and there's the pressure of studying for...
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posted: Tuesday September 15th - 2:28pm

Crazy Ex-Girlfriend Surfaces, and Chef Goes from Bad to Worse

Is is really true that adults with ADHD can't separate themselves from their emotions?

Jane D.
A crazy chick, one perhaps even crazier than this chick with ADHD, exists out there. As you’ve been reading on my adults with ADHD blog, about two months ago I found a new suitor, Mr. MD (yes he’s a full blown doctor), one who I’d put in the category of pseudo-serious. There are the buddies with benefits, there are playboys, and then there is marriage material...
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posted: Friday September 11th - 9:33am

A New Friend, A New Man

The new man has accurately and affectionately observed that I am a big-picture girl, but how can he not see my flaws or the scattered ways of adult ADHD?

I am wrapping up week two on the new job now, and, already, I feel, well, like I am flaming out. The problem is that the head honcho probably has ADHD himself, but because he's so high up on the totem pole, all of us underlings kind of smile, nod, and placate the guy, and then scatter when we have our first chance. I am somewhat...
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posted: Tuesday September 8th - 12:16pm

Not Again: A He-Boss Emerges

A new job, a new boss (who may also have ADHD), and déjà vu on the first day.

After nine months of a hiatus, I found myself in the land of the employed again. The shift was sudden, and I joked to a close friend yesterday that if I'd known that layoff land would someday end, I would have taken a real vacation. (It's almost funny how humans are; I never really believed that I'd get a real job again.) The job is a...
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