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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: May 2009

posted: Wednesday May 27th - 4:29pm

Being Big Pharma's Guinea Pig

A focus group meeting for attention deficit adults brought the good—free food, cash, an ADHD reunion—and the ugly—paperwork.

Jane D.
I’m whoring myself, and not ashamed of using the ADHD diagnosis in these economically tough times. The other day I signed up to be a guinea pig in a focus group for a large pharmaceutical. The carrot was $125 in cash. So I show up at 6 p.m. at this neat office in midtown Manhattan. We are told to fill out more paper, the bane of my...
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posted: Tuesday May 19th - 11:18am

Patience, Planning, Persistence Pays

If adults with ADHD can find ways to create their own destiny, they might not have to fear being fired or lose control over life.

Jane D.
The career counselor is working wonders. I met with her the other day (just before a phone interview!), and I told her that I've been told that I have ADHD. To this day there's been a lot of fan fare before I talk to people about the attention deficit, even to those adults who have ADHD, too. I decided to "come out" at the onset with the...
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posted: Tuesday May 12th - 9:59pm

When Friends Don’t Stick

From awkward moments to fleeting friendships, sorry social skills can bring lots of problems and little else for adults with ADHD.

I don't know how I leave them hanging—this trail of broken friendships and connections. I attended a fifth-year reunion for graduate school over the weekend, and ran into two girls who I had once been good friends with. They nodded at me and barely said hello. I think one of them is upset that I frankly did not email her back one time. I had most...
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posted: Monday May 11th - 10:10am

The Price of a Makeover

I can spend hundreds on a new suit and a new coach, but my gut tells me to invest more in myself. Can an adult with ADHD afford not to do that?

I met Lisa A. at an unemployment group that I am paying to attend. She is a fellow victim of the current economy, who on top of that has bipolar mood disorder. She looks a bit like Bea Arthur and has the natural peace and calm of the Dalai Lama. That we hit it off as friends — her yin, the BMD, to my yang, the...
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posted: Thursday May 7th - 10:33am

No Luck: New Meds, But Still Fidgets

The switch to generic Adderall medication has come and gone with no vast improvement in the symptoms of adult ADHD. Honestly? It's as if I want to pay attention, but I simply cannot.

Jane D.
I have not been able to get over the reasons behind Mr. PhD's very odd behavior. I'm the kind of girl who would give someone the shirt off my back. I've always had a heart for underdogs (something a lot of adults with ADHD can sympathize with), and despised the pompous and arrogant—the people who think they are Porsches when they are really Kias. The sister...
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