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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: March 2009

posted: Tuesday March 31st - 3:17pm

Spring Returns, a Cynic Emerges

Distracted. Forgetful. Untreated adult ADHD. All signs that I'm not be ready to be a parent?

Jane D.
Easter eggs and pastel-colored flowers at the corner shops are a reminder that spring is here. It has been more than four months since the layoff, and I've entered a period of feeling angry and cynical about it all. I realize I should be thankful that I have this swim instructor job, but I am frustrated. Half of the kids I taught today shied away from me,...
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posted: Monday March 23rd - 11:22am

A Common-Sense Approach to ADHD

I found my kindred spirits at the shallow end of the pool.

Jane D.
For the first time in my life, I am faced with three- and four-year-olds who throw tantrums without telling me why, and without warning. Did I get a masters degree from an Ivy League to do this? As I watched them dissolve into tears, I thought, "my sentiments exactly." I, too, wanted to cry. Earning $16 an hour isn't easy. Not to my surprise, I feel like...
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posted: Tuesday March 10th - 4:53pm

Become a Better You, Jane!

The conventional advice, the daily Oprahisms, doesn't always do the job on unfocused, attention-deficit minds.

Jane D.
The promise of structure and planning disappeared this week, as I moved back to the suburbs and the father, stepmother, and sister. Since returning home from the trip to Florida, I have felt like a man without a country. For some time now (since the health benefits ended), I haven't had Adderall. The difference I see without ADHD medication is that I tend to flounder more. The...
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posted: Monday March 9th - 7:30pm

Late and Losing My Memory

A new game plan for ADHD-driven slip-ups: Pretend it never happened.

Jane D.
I’m in month three of unemployment, and month one of no health insurance, and no ADHD medication. I guess you could say I’m floundering. For a while things were actually going pretty well. Attending the 12-week support-group sessions (with fellow adults with attention deficit disorder/ADHD) gave me renewed hope. But now, with the severance dried up, I’m clueless about what next. Lately the stress perhaps has taken...
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posted: Friday March 6th - 7:44pm

Airport Lost & Found: Attention Deficits

So I arrived at the wrong airport, but did get there on time. A small victory in the war against ADHD!

Traveling with ADHD? Use the ADDitude organizing and scheduling tips before you say bon voyage!
Regular readers of my blog know that I am a textbook case of attention-deficit disorder. The lost bits of paper, the missed dates, the “sorry, so sorry” refrains, a sad, simple ballad (best sung by an ADDer). So of all the crazy things I’ve done throughout the last month in unemployment land, I have to say that this might take the cake. What happened? Well, in...
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posted: Wednesday March 4th - 12:13pm

A Coach Class Encounter with ADHD

I went to Florida to escape the winter and the city, but the jobless funk and weariness came along for the ride.

Jane D.
I left New York before the big storm, purposefully. I did not—frankly do not—want to be there anymore. I hate to say this, but something in me has died. The novelty of being laid off hit me full throttle when March arrived. The severance is over—as are the health benefits. I won’t even start about the lapse in medication to treat the adult attention deficit...
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posted: Tuesday March 3rd - 10:04am

How the ADHD Brain Keeps Track of Time

Put aside the theories on executive functions, and the orchestra without its conductor, and the answer is simple: The adult-ADD brain doesn't know time.

Jane D.
In the world of attention deficit disorder, it’s as if, in the words of a good friend and fellow adult ADDer, "the future doesn't exist." Since the layoff in December, I’ve been Miss Tardy, Tardy. My ability to get from point A to point B on time diminishes with each passing day—and each night, I go to sleep later and later. I miss the she-boss, with her...
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