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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: September 2008

posted: Tuesday September 30th - 1:51pm

Temper Tantrum

I sulked, pouted, and felt like bursting into tears at work—like this part of me would always be there: the impatient, impulsive, jealous self.

Jane D.
I've crumbled under the stress of city living and a crazy job made crazier by the downspiraling financial markets. This morning, I snapped at the boss and colleagues at our weekly powwow. The boss was giving me a hard time about one of my ideas that I'd worked long and hard on, and I took the whole thing very personally. Her rejection was so familiar to...
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posted: Monday September 29th - 11:28am

Man Strike

Will any relationship be long-lasting and ADD-friendly? It seems I get so bored so easily.

Jane D.
A season of serial dating and I am officially burnt out. I am not sure if it is the ADD chick in me—the impulsive, spicy, razor-tongued girl in me who lashes out at the men who have been attempting to continue to date me—or that simply I am settling for men who are offering me scraps. There are two kinds of men on the horizon: the...
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posted: Tuesday September 23rd - 9:21am

Dating with ADD: Mr. Cheapo vs. Shy Boy

What would happen if I told a date that I have ADD?

Jane D.
I officially buried the betta fish last night. Over the past few days, it had been acting funky, sinking to the bottom of the tank like a submarine, refusing to be enticed by blood worms. Then last night I found it on its side, no longer breathing. Even though the fish never said a word to me, I found myself increasingly attached to it, talking to...
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posted: Wednesday September 17th - 10:58am

Amidst Uncertainty

Getting through an ADD day is like walking a tightrope. Wound up, tense, fearful.

Jane D.
How much of the darkness is imagined, and how much is real? I met the new shrink, the Buddhaman’s replacement. Thank heavens she is a woman, because, lately, the dating escapades have turned south, and I've lost hope (or amusement) with the litany of "Y chromosomers." Looking back at the past year, I can see that the two men I gave my heart to clearly weren't...
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posted: Monday September 8th - 9:56am

Avalanche of Worry

Fretting about the present, the future, the job, the meaning of life overall.

Jane D.
Maybe it is the switch in seasons, but I've been in a funk over the past several weeks. I wonder if I should blame it on the litany of men who have come and gone into my life like shooting stars. Easy come, easy go. I also wonder if it is the meds, throwing me into an unexplained tizzy in the middle of the day. I...
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posted: Tuesday September 2nd - 5:17pm


The summer is ending, and my latest romance with a fellow ADDer is cooling off.

Jane D.
The summer is coming to an end, the sunsets arriving sooner, and the darkness enveloping me when I awake. I had wanted it to last longer. I always want to capture something as it flees. The one guy who pegged me as his girlfriend, four dates into the game, seems to have cooled off, not because of his lack of interest, but mine. In the beginning, when...
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