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Jane D., a professional writer with ADHD in her early 40s, blogs about dating and relationships, working and losing a variety of jobs, and surviving and thriving with attention deficit, along with depression and anxiety. She lives and works near a big city on the West Coast.

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Archives: July 2008

posted: Wednesday July 30th - 6:37am

Summer Trough

In the end, those who want it all get nothing. It's not fun and things continue to go south.

Jane D.
The dating situation just gets worse and worse. I think back to being five years old in a toy store and pointing to every toy and piece of candy. What do you want? I want it all. In the end, those who want it all get nothing. The latest travesty (or tragedy) is that I've gotten attached to the 35-year-old swimmer, with whom at the start...
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posted: Monday July 21st - 10:26am

Psycho What?!

It's the second time someone has asked me if I've considered going to a shrink.

Jane D.
A close friend, who I've been emailing and leaning on for advice on jobs, men, etc., finally emailed back and asked if I've considered psychotherapy. I think she wanted to suggest it for a while, but one is always afraid of offending friends. In the past, I would have cut her off, like a loose string on a sweater – but, at the age of 32,...
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posted: Tuesday July 15th - 4:33pm

Girls' Night Out

What's wrong with my personality, the impulsivity, the temper? What about all of the good things that I bring to the table?

Jane D.
Last night was girls’ night out: frozen margaritas, guacamole, salsa, and all the color and festivity of a night in the big bad apple. It was also a breaking point of sorts. There is too much going on, and the plate cracked. There is the job, the swimming, the part-time gigs, the hunt for the perfect man, the city, the fifth-floor walk up, and a lot...
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posted: Monday July 14th - 1:47pm

Unraveling Again

I wish there were a pause button — a way to stop everything — once I've overloaded my plate to the brink of collapse.

Jane D.
I have been a blog slacker lately. I kind of just checked out. There was the trip to tornado land, where I watched swimming with a swim friend, and then, once again, I fell into the trap of overloading my plate to the point where it's on the brink of collapsing or cracking. Perhaps I've fallen into a mild depression after I was dumped by the...
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posted: Friday July 11th - 10:46am

Meet My ADD Twin

She's picky and particular—and sees me as her lifeboat. So, how to help her when I can't handle my own messes?

Jane D.
I wonder if my friend Cheryl also has attention deficit disorder. We share a passion for swimming and since we went on our inaugural Thelma and Louise trip together, I’ve discovered that we are like Bobbsey twins. She’s 30 years older than me (“of a different vintage,” she says) and probably 40 pounds heavier, but when I’m with her, I feel like I am looking at...
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posted: Monday July 7th - 10:25am

Late Fees and Lost Checks

Among the 1,001 things on my mind, I forgot to pay my credit card bill. The debt collectors were calling, and I was going to snap.

Jane D.
The collection agency called. For an adult with ADD, that god-awful (801) area code stands out like a flash at high noon (my favorite line from The Bell Jar). Deep down I knew that somehow, just somehow, I had screwed it up. There was a lost check, a credit card payment that hadn’t gone through, and a bill forgotten among the 1,001 things that cartwheel in my...
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