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Adult ADHD Blog (A Woman's Perspective)
Adult ADD/ADHD blogger, Jane D., writes about dating and relationships; interviewing for, working at, and losing a variety of jobs; and of course, surviving and thriving with her ADD/ADHD (along with depression and anxiety) symptoms and treatments.
Not one to shy away from tough topics, most recently the 30-something Jane D. has written about losing her job, her apartment, and the love of her life -- and turning everything around by taking a freelance gig halway around the world in Hong Kong. Read Read Jane D.'s full bio and browse her blog archives: 2007, 2008, 2009, and 2010. Recent Blog Posts
I thought a vacation would help restore my sunshine and sparkle. But ADHD followed me even to the beaches of Thailand. In order to gain some color and in hopes of rejuvenating spirit and spunk, I left for the beach in Thailand with a friend. The friend is a widowed woman in her 40s, and we know each other from the pool. The trip was supposed to be a revival and a way to get my spark back. Instead I whined about the overbearing heat and humidity...Continue Reading »
Yes, Auntie, I'm still single. And in therapy. And discouraged by more reminders of how little I can control. The cousin and her beau are here. They arrived as a package of four, if you add on the nosy uncle and aunt. At the mass family gathering at the fancy-schmancy restaurant a few days after their arrival, the annoying aunt made it a point of highlighting my singleness when another cousin asked me if I wanted to attend a networking drink with him. "Are there...Continue Reading »
A bad fall. A hip replacement. As my loved ones suffer through physical pain, I can't help but feel that my struggles with ADHD and depression, though often invisible, are no less worthy of compassion. A little after midnight a week ago, the grandmother slipped and fell in the bathroom. She has been hospital- and bed-ridden since, which is akin to torture for everyone involved. At 89, the grandmother is feisty and impatient and hates her roommates, the doctors, and the hospital food. She badly wants to walk again and the aunt doesn't have the heart to tell her that she won't...Continue Reading »
Focusing on today -- on meeting its challenges head on and battling my ADHD demons -- is tough work. So, instead, I obsess about what comes tomorrow, this summer, next year. This was a good morning. A gold-star morning. A lay-out-your-stuff-the-night-before and get-up-when-you-should morning. All of this despite last night's nagging dream of a wedding -- not mine, of course. I cannot feign surprise or confusion about the dream's psychological origins. As my cousin's big day nears, my singleness has been bothering me greatly with no solutions in sight. Sadness is my reality lately, with occasional glimmers of...Continue Reading »
I am a nomad. I don't stay anywhere long. But after 36 years of constant motion, I still haven't outrun my ADHD -- or the deep sadness that has seeped in lately. Perhaps this city's lack of sun and its smothering gray sky are responsible for my recent funk -- more painful and longer lasting than others I've endured. I've been trying to swim or write myself out of it, but without much success. It is like one step forward two steps back. Then again, maybe it is the anticipation of visiting relatives, or the cultural differences that...Continue Reading »
Are you listening, God? It's me, Jane. And I sure could use a therapeutic ear, a friendly shoulder, and a man. Especially that last one. Greeting a new day. Swimming. Writing. These daily joys are sometimes a struggle to achieve and appreciate, especially when the Tasmanian devil of Boredom is running rampant in my head. Not to mention the extreme moodiness that triggers depression so bad that I don't even want to be around myself. Which is tough because I really have no choice. Come April, the grandmother and I won't be...Continue Reading »
I'm jittery. I avoid eye contact. I dissolve into tears without provocation. Is it depression? Anxiety? Or the cumulative effect of too much stress and ADHD? The weather in Hong Kong swings from sticky humid to cucumber cool and in the bipolar weather, I find my moods equally turbulent. I've become moody again in a sort of "Three Faces of Eve" way that surpasses everyday ups and downs. I'll admit to full-blown Mt. Everest type tantrums and dissolved into tears for no real reason. I've lashed out at the grandmother as she...Continue Reading »
I'm starting to believe I may never find love -- my family sure seems to think so. Can I learn to accept what I can't seem to change, and face up to a lonely fate? Three meltdowns in a month -- that's not good. For me, a meltdown consists of a toxic combination of ADHD and feeling dark blue, then asking, "Is this it?" and bursting into tears. Can I come to terms with the reality that this is who I am? That this is me, warts and all, and there's not much I can do to change that? That given...Continue Reading »
I'm tired of the Hong Kong adventure. I want out. But what if it's not this city? What if it's me? How can I keep running from my ADHD self? This year, I decided to spend Chinese New Year on my own catching up and writing. For weeks before this mega holiday, I'd been packing my calendar with errands and busywork to avoid the pain of getting together with people -- more specifically, relatives. Family time, lately, does little more than remind me of what I lack and where I am lacking. To be honest, I'm burned...Continue Reading »
Guiding a group of 40-plus college students through Asia, I feel lonely, scared, and sick about avoiding the to-do list at home that promises to help me reign in my ADHD. Last week, I launched yet another adventure chaperoning 40-plus college students from my alma mater on a journey through another Asian city. I want to do a good job on this, my first-ever 'collegiate tour guide' trip and a much-needed respite from Hong Kong. The grandmother observed me packing yet another suitcase shortly after my return from Gotham: "You are so busy," she said matter-of-factly. It...Continue Reading » « All Blogs |
    
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