Find a mentor An ADHD child may be more likely to take advice or instruction from a 'big brother' or 'big sister' than from you. Ask the big sibling of one of your child's classmates if he will be an informal mentor to your child. Many schools understand the importance of mentors and have programs to connect kids.
Follow the love. If your child is a Gameboy fiend, look for other video-game fans to potentially be his friend. A shared interest will help your child feel confident and engaged.
Start out with one-on-one play. One-on-one play dates usually work best for ADHD children. With threesomes, it's easy for your child to feel left out - or ganged up on.
Seek out younger playmates. Children with attention deficit tend to be more immature than their peers (and painfully aware of it). As your child is growing up it's often helpful if she develops friendships with children a year or two younger – this way, she won't feel left behind.