5. Put energy into solving problems.
Have you noticed how intense we get when we’re focused on the negative? Instead, shift the energy of the conversation toward solving a problem.
"Cookies here? Not going to happen. But," you say emphatically, your eyes wide, "do you think you guys could get your homework done tomorrow in time to bake chocolate chip cookies? Who wants to stir the mix and lick the spoon?"
By following these five steps, you will give your kids the consistency they need. They will learn that negotiating, whining, and melting down don't work with you. You’re also teaching them constructive ways to deal with anger and frustration, skills they will find valuable as they grow up.
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This article appears in the Winter 2011 issue of ADDitude.
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