2. Set clear expectations with specific statements.
Many parents of ADHD children try bribery or make vague promises and threats: "We’ll see. It depends on how you behave at dinner."
This is the last resort of tired, frustrated parents. You are saying, "I don’t want to put up with your tantrum now, so I’m going to string you along and bludgeon you with threats throughout dinner."
When does "bad behavior" start? When the child misbehaves three times, seven times? Does the child really have a chance?
Be confident and specific, so that your kids know what to expect. Say yes or no. Don’t feel guilty about disappointing them.
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This article appears in the Winter 2011 issue of ADDitude.
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