Friendship Problem: "I Feel Antisocial"
I feel antisocial. A group of women at my job get together for "chick night" once a month. I prefer to sit home. I like them, and they like me, but I prefer getting lost in my own thoughts. I am happy spending time with my husband and daughter at home. A T-shirt I bought says it all: "I’m in my own little world, but it’s OK. They know me here."
Getting lost in your own thoughts has its benefits. It allows you to tap into your creative side and process emotions you may not otherwise have time for. There is a downside to too much alone time, though: You can overthink things and start worrying when you don’t have input from friends. Seeing friends gets us out of our own heads.
Since some of our challenges may be family-related, it is good to have a close friend or two outside the family to socialize with. Remember that sharing our troubles can cut them in half, and sharing our joys can double them.
Friendships don’t require spending a lot of time together. Trust, respect, and love make a friendship grow and last. That is something that we all have to give, even if our socializing skills are not as good as we would like them to be.