Help for Messy ADHD Children: End the Chore Wars

Real parents of ADD/ADHD children offer their best strategies for getting even the most messy and disorganized children to help out around the house -- without fighting or dragging their feet!


Filed Under: ADHD Housework Tips, Organization Tips for ADHD Kids, Behavior in ADHD Kids
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How to Accommodate for Your ADD/ADHD Child's Memory and Organizing Challenges

"When you're the parent of a child (especially an adolescent) with ADHD, you have bigger fish to fry than whether or not your child remembers to put away her belongings without prompting. So when you find your child has left something out, bring her to the room and ask her to pick it up. Yes, it feels like more work than just doing it yourself, but it puts the responsibility on her, in a way that she can handle, and over time it will get better (though it will take longer than you want it to or think it should). That's just the way it is. Before you know it, your child will be off to college or starting her first real job. Do you want to spend the time you have with her at home punishing her for not picking up after herself or do you want to spend it getting her ready to launch (academically, morally, and emotionally) and loving her and enjoying being with her while you have her at home?" -Jillbb

"What I find best in helping ADHD kids to do the simple things, like chores, that we do automatically but they forget to do, is to write them down and put the list where it can be seen easily and frequently. My 15-year-old has to be reminded about his chores most of the time, but for the past three months, I typed the chores that he should do during the day -- like make his bed, make tea, take a shower, brush his teeth, take out the garbage -- with checkboxes next to each chore and stuck it on the fridge where he would definitely see it. He gets 10 points for each one done. There are about 12 things on the list and he has to get about 100 points each day for at least 8 out of 10 consecutive days. If he reaches that, he then gets a book at the end of the tenth day. By now, he gets most of them done without me having to remind him what he should do. At first the refusal to do chores does seem to be laziness, but their brains just don't work like ours. If you wait for this behavior to change, I'm afraid you'll be waiting forever." -dolphin70

More Help for Parents of Messy ADHD Children

Books That May Inspire a Clutter Clean-Up Among Messy ADD/ADHD Children
Help for Disorganized ADD/ADHD Children
Better ADD/ADHD Behavior Through Chores

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