Getting the Whole Family to Enforce ADHD-Friendly Routines
It's still common for grandparents not to "believe in" ADD/ADHD. I recall one couple who insisted that they wouldn't need medication for vacation with their grandchild, and then called for an overnight delivery of it the next day. I've seen many reluctant relatives become the best advocates for a niece or grandchild. Give your relatives a copy of Driven to Distraction by Ned Hallowell, M.D., or Dr. Larry Silver's Advice to Parents on ADD/ADHD.
Still, continue to remind the relatives whom you will be visiting that you may need to have some "time outs." Explain strategies that work at home. For example, "We have found that watching a video at home allows Suzie more wiggle room than going to the theater." More is not better -- too many museums, too many meals out, too busy an agenda -- can all lead to meltdowns. Ask host relatives not to schedule high-energy activities before bedtime.