Survival Strategies for SuperMom

Five solutions to real time-management, meal-planning and home-organization problems facing mothers with ADHD.

Coach on Call, Part 2

Meal management

"I hate grocery shopping," says Kathy. "It takes up my whole day, I spend a fortune buying a ton of stuff I don't need, and, when I get home, I realize I forgot the milk or toilet paper, and have to go back."

PROBLEM: Kathy needed a game plan for getting to the store, buying only what she needed, and not coming home with unnecessary items.

Solution: She placed a grocery list on the fridge. All items to buy, including toiletries and medication, had to be on the list by Friday — errand day. Her husband picked up anything they needed before then. She chose a supermarket with a pharmacy and a dry-cleaning store nearby to streamline her chores. If an item wasn't on the list, she didn't buy it. "Stick to the list... stick to the list," she repeated to herself.

What also worked: Kathy stopped clipping coupons. This task, she discovered, took more time than the savings justified and gave her too many choices.

Result: Kathy made fewer trips to the grocery store and stopped making superfluous purchases.

The logistics of planning a full week of meals for her family had Kathy pulling out her hair. She would either scan her overflowing cupboards and freezer, embark on too ambitious a dish, and delay dinner until late in the evening, or put off planning until it was too late, and the family would eat pizza five nights in a row.

PROBLEM: Kathy needed to limit her creativity to her design work and keep mealtimes simple.

Solution: She chose five family-approved meals that are nutritious and easy to cook. When making the shopping list, she made sure to restock any ingredients needed for the meals. Here was a typical week:

  • Monday: Husband's night to cook — nothing to worry about.
  • Tuesday: Make one of the standby meals. Prepare (thaw, peel, chop, etc.) ingredients in advance to make the evening preparation less hectic.
  • Wednesday: Fall back on an easy meal, such as leftovers, scrambled eggs, grilled cheese sandwiches, or frozen entrees.
  • Thursday: See Tuesday.
  • Friday: Take-out or go out — no cooking.
  • Saturday and Sunday: Time to try new recipes, exotic dishes, or labor-intensive family favorites, such as lasagna. Decide on which meals and make list of ingredients to buy before the Friday shopping expedition to the supermarket.

Result: Kathy spent less time in the kitchen, and her family ate home-cooked meals more often and at a reasonable hour.

Mom management

As soon as Kathy clocked out for the day, she started in on housework. There was so much to do that she never had a time out, but she still felt like she was getting things only half-done. The constant wear was taking a toll emotionally.

PROBLEM: Kathy needed to reduce her workload and make time for herself.

Solution: She could afford to outsource the tasks she least liked to do by hiring a bookkeeper and a cleaning service, and by recruiting her husband to cut the lawn.

What also worked: In her new-found personal time, Kathy saw her therapist regularly. That first year, she exceeded the number of visits covered by her health care plan, but she feels that it was money well spent to get herself back on track.

Result: She became more productive at her job. She also found time and support for herself, things that any working mom with ADHD desperately needs.

Most important to Kathy's survival and sanity was her sense of humor. We found that one of my suggestions — parking her grocery cart at the end of the aisle and fetching what she needed by hand — failed. When she unpacked her groceries, Kathy puzzled over four ripe avocados and a bunch of grapes that she didn't remember selecting. When she realized what had happened, she called me, and we had a good laugh. Either she had put her items in someone else's cart and sped off to the next aisle with it, or, "Maybe the avocado lady has ADHD too, and was trying the same tactic," said Kathy. "She put her stuff in my cart while I was down the aisle. Then, when she got home and realized she was missing her grapes and avocados, she thought, 'Bummer! I did it again. I put my stuff in someone else's basket.'"

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