Contract with Your Teen
Help for Parents of Angry ADD/ADHD Teens
What if you have an aggressive ADD/ADHD teen who ignores your warnings and elbows you out of the way when he’s upset? Again, words are important. Use them to negotiate a contract -- “If you do X, Y will happen. If you don’t, Z will.” Consequences should not change, and must be consistently enforced.
When he does break the contract, physical chores -- mowing the lawn or washing the car -- make good punishments. Physical exertion will release the aggression that landed him in trouble.
If the angry behavior continues, persist. Also add reinforcements -- have a favorite uncle or an adult/mentor talk with him. And keep coming back to the contract. Defusing anger is sometimes a battle of wills. Your child should understand that you have a bigger circle of support than he can fend off.