10 Ways to Save Your Relationship

All you need is love, right? Wrong. If you or your partner has ADHD, follow these rules to foster communication, build trust, and reciprocate support.

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Forgive and Forget

It is tempting to point the finger at the other person and blame her for the problems in the relationship. But it takes two to tango. When we admit to the problems we may be causing, instead of dwelling on what our partner does wrong, we grow spiritually. When I acknowledge my own shortcomings -- identify them, work on changing them, and forgive myself for not being perfect -- it is easier to accept my partner and to forgive her shortcomings.

A phrase that sums up this forgive-and-forget concept is: “I did the best I could do in that moment. If I could have done better, I would have.” This takes the sting out of a bad experience, and enables you and your spouse to talk with each other civilly. It is no longer about one of you “doing it again,” it is about being human and making mistakes -- something that is possible to forgive.

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TAGS: ADHD and Relationships, ADHD and Marriage, ADHD Dating, ADHD Communication Skills, ADHD Therapy

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