Encourage them to think about the consequences of their behavior
When you give solutions, pass judgment, or tell your child what to do differently the next time, you’re depriving him of thinking for himself. It’s better to ask him to figure it out. Questions like “What can you do to get out of this jam?” and “What might you do differently the next time, so that your friend doesn’t ask to go home early?” will do that.
Children who understand how certain events trigger certain feelings are more likely to gain control over their emotions or curtail their impulses. The more they understand a cause-and-effect sequence, the better they’ll be able to plan a course of action. And when you explain why something is important, a child is more likely to remember that critical information when he needs it.