If you are a parent of a child with ADHD, you work hard to help her overcome academic and social challenges. You read books and this magazine, and you go online to stay abreast of research. Still, you can’t have too many resources.

One resource you might not have thought about is near at hand: you, and people like you. Lots of practical information about ADD is stored in the brains of those who have the condition. Tapping into this brain trust through a support group can be a godsend. Meeting and talking with parents of older children, those who have solved the problems you’re facing this moment, gives you hope. Participants learn—for the first time—that they are not alone.

Locating a Group

With a little effort, you can find a support group that addresses your need—whether it’s your own loneliness or your child’s anxiety or learning disability. Two national support and advocacy organizations, CHADD (chadd.org) and Attention Deficit Disorder Association (add.org), sponsor regional networking and educational events. The Learning Disabilities Association of America (ldanatl.org) also offers local meetings. In addition, many schools offer support programs and networking opportunities for parents of children with special needs. Check with your school counseling office or PTA for information. Ask your child’s doctor or your therapist if she or a colleague runs a group.

Start Your Own

If you can’t find a group that meets your needs, start your own. Recruit members by putting up posters or flyers in schools, the library or church, and at local stores. Talk with ADHD organizations and pediatricians. Be specific about the group’s purpose—a support group for parents of children with ADHD will attract a different membership than one for ADD spouses.

Although you don’t need a professional to run a group, you will need a committed person (or persons) to organize it. They will have to schedule meetings and speakers and, perhaps, moderate.

In-Person or Virtual?

While face-to-face support groups are the most powerful way to connect, online groups may work better for you. As ADD mothers know, nothing is more precious than time. If you have little downtime, there are many avenues of support online. Join ADDitude’s forums (additudemag.com/adhdforums) to connect with readers. There are virtual communities supporting every aspect of ADD. A quick search on Google will turn up several.

Joining a support group will probably increase your patience with your child, spouse, or yourself. Best of all, support groups provide you with a healthy dose of my favorite vitamin C—vitamin “Connect”!