Pay Attention While Speaking and Listening
Monitor your voice. Our style of speaking impacts others more than we think. People with hyperactive ADHD often talk too loudly, too rapidly. Those with inattentive ADHD tend to speak too little and too softly. A vibrating watch can remind you to slow down or to speak up.
Be a good listener. Rein in your impatience and impulsivity, and let others finish their thoughts before speaking. If this is hard for you, press your tongue against the top of your mouth as you listen. Then, reflect on what they said before responding. Not sure what to say? It’s hard to go wrong with “tell me more.”
Make sure you have something to say. Many people with ADD see small talk as a waste of time, rather than as the tension-breaker and relationship-builder it is. One way to make small talk easier is to keep up with current events. For instance, most news sites on the Internet carry the big stories in an easy-to-read format.
If you’re meeting with the parents of your child’s classmates, look over any notes that the teacher sent home with your child.
Watch the jokes. Since you don’t know the sensitivities of the people you are meeting, avoid funny comments until you get to know them better.
If you get off on the wrong foot, acknowledge it and ask, “Can we begin again?” If the other person says “no,” perhaps they weren’t your type anyway.