Problem: Blaming your partner.
ADDers tend to defend themselves against real or imagined criticisms rather than responding to a complaint. We’re so busy defending ourselves that we can’t hear someone else’s point.
If you hear yourself saying, “It wasn’t my fault” or “You do it, too,” more than once, take a break. Go to the bathroom and splash cold water on your face, or take a walk around the block to calm down and reset your attitude.
Problem: Sounding antagonistic.
Some ADHD women with high stimulation needs consciously -- or unconsciously -- stir up trouble when boredom strikes. Drama becomes a way of life, shutting down real communication and conflict resolution.