Talking Too Much
Problem: Open-mouth-insert-foot syndrome.
Good communication doesn’t mean immediately expressing every thought, feeling, or reaction that pops up.
Stopping to ask ourselves whether to say it -- and how to say it -- is critical to sustaining relationships. We have been on the receiving end of critical comments throughout our lives, so we should be aware of the effects our impulsive remarks might have on our partners.
Problem: Spilling everything.
Some women with hyperactive ADD are compelled to say what’s on their mind before they forget it, leaving their partners frustrated by a flurry of words.
After you’ve had your say, turn to your partner and say, “OK, I’ve said it. Now let’s talk about it.” Or tell your spouse about your compulsion to vent, ask him to be patient, and then restart the conversation.
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