When Your ADHD Husband Acts More Like Your Child

When a wife has to "mother" her husband or when one spouse feels ignored and unloved, the impact of ADHD on marrriage cannot be overstated. But love is not lost! Rebuild trust in your marriage with these tips.

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How to stop mothering or nagging your ADHD spouse. © istockphoto.com/cglow

You fell in love with his boyish enthusiasm, adventurous spirit, and easy-going charm. Now you are frustrated when he goes skiing instead of shoveling the walkway, or forgets to take the children to the dentist.

Face it: It is much easier to love someone with ADHD than it is to live with him.

Over the years, your roles have changed. You are less like lovers than like a scolding parent and a naughty child. When your husband doesn’t do something you ask him to do, you do it yourself.

Just the other day, over a cup of tea, you actually heard yourself telling a friend that you think of your spouse as a second child.

Clearly, you can’t go on like this without your marriage falling apart. What to do?

Next: 4 Ways to Talk It Up

This article comes from the Summer 2009 issue of ADDitude.

To read this issue of ADDitude in full, buy the back issue.

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