My Spouse, My Child: Who Invited ADHD into Our Marriage?

How can a couple reignite the marital spark when a wife has to "mother" her ADHD husband? With these tips for building a strong foundation to any ADHD marriage.


Filed Under: ADHD and Marriage, ADHD and Relationships,
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How to stop mothering or nagging your ADHD spouse. © istockphoto.com/cglow

You fell in love with his boyish enthusiasm, adventurous spirit, and easy-going charm. Now you are frustrated when he goes skiing instead of shoveling the walkway, or forgets to take the children to the dentist.

Face it: It is much easier to love someone with ADHD than it is to live with him.

Over the years, your roles have changed. You are less like lovers than like a scolding parent and a naughty child. When your husband doesn’t do something you ask him to do, you do it yourself.

Just the other day, over a cup of tea, you actually heard yourself telling a friend that you think of your spouse as a second child.

Clearly, you can’t go on like this without your marriage falling apart. What to do?

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This article comes from the Summer 2009 issue of ADDitude.

To read this issue of ADDitude in full, buy the back issue.


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