Call in an Expert
If Plan A doesn’t work, go with Plan B: Call in an expert to help your husband achieve agreed-upon goals and free you from having to mother him.
Kathy Fitzgerald Sherman wrote a book that may apply to your situation: It’s titled A Housekeeper Is Cheaper Than a Divorce (Life Tools Press). Think about it.
An ADHD coach or a professional organizer can work on strategies and accountability, and leave you out of it. If too much resentment has built up between the two of you, and you can’t remember why you fell in love, consider seeing a therapist or marriage counselor.
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