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Engage the Speaker & Your Brain
When your mind drifts during a conversation, ask the person to repeat what she just said. If you ask with confidence, your request is usually perceived as a compliment. The other person thinks that she said something so important that it should be said again. You can even tell her that your mind drifted. Say, "I started thinking about what you were talking about, and I need you to repeat the last thing you said. I don't want to miss anything."
Repeating to yourself, under your breath, what the other person is saying can sometimes keep your mind in the flow of the conversation.
Nod your head slightly as the person talks, affirming to yourself that you are paying attention. Look the speaker in the eye. Occasionally repeat what the speaker said to show her—and you—that you’re listening.
Focus on the speaker's mouth, as if you're reading her lips, and tell yourself, "I only have to focus for a little longer. I can do it."
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This article comes from the Summer 2009 issue of ADDitude.
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