Sending the Right Signals in Your ADHD Home

Kids -- especially children with ADHD -- look to their parents for reassurance that everything’s OK. Use these five tips to up the comfort-and-cuddle factor.

More Tips for Parents

Show your appreciation for your spouse.

Help your kids feel good about your relationship by saying things like “Didn’t Dad do a great job of fixing the garage up for us?” or “Mom fixed us the best dinner tonight. Let’s all say thank you to her.”

Be affectionate every day.

A goodbye kiss, a hug while doing dishes, and a shared laugh send powerful messages to the kids. They create an atmosphere that says, “We care for and love each other in this family.”

Involve your children in doing something special for your spouse.

At birthday or holiday time, take your children on a special shopping trip for dad (or mom). Don’t browse for yourself or let the kids pick out toys they want. Make the trip about finding the perfect present. This will help them learn to notice what is special to others.

Don’t argue in front of your children.

Engaging in, and resolving, conflict demonstrates a good relationship. You can’t eliminate differences of opinion with your spouse, but serious clashes may frighten young children. Whenever a disagreement is about your child—his ADHD treatment, her performance at school—hold your discussions in private. If a child hears his name in the context of an argument, he may worry that he’s causing problems between you.

After you work through an argument that your child might have heard, make a point of telling him that everything has been resolved. For example, “Mom and I talked about taking a trip to grandma’s house this spring. Even though we disagreed at first, we decided that it would be best to postpone our trip until the summer.”

Your children need to feel that their home is a place of warmth. Disagreements and stress can’t be avoided entirely, but you hope that your child can say in years to come, “Yes, I grew up in a loving and caring home.”

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