Talk Calmly, Don't Shout
DO: Keep your anger under control.
Tell yourself that you won’t open your mouth until you’re calm enough to speak at normal volume and in a cordial tone. To calm down, spend a few minutes alone — something as simple as excusing yourself to get a glass of water may do the trick.
DON’T: Bark orders like a drill sergeant.
Yelling shows the child that you, the almighty parent, has lost control. Shouting also opens up the door to your child to return the favor and to yell back.