Moving on After Mistakes

The key is to try again without feeling bad about yourself. ADDitude readers tell how they get back up after a slip-up.

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I trust in my faith in God.

— An ADDitude Reader

ADDitude asked: how do you move forward after you make a mistake?

I accept responsibility for all of my mistakes, and I never use my ADHD as an excuse. The key is to learn from every mistake you make. It’s been difficult to deal with ADHD as an adult. I have a good career, but bad luck seems to follow me through my life. I attribute it to bad choices. The key component is to understand that we are human, and we will make mistakes. — Mandy, Colorado

> My son and I start over when one of us messes up. That makes it easier to move on. I teach him that everyone has bad days or moments and that we can pick ourselves up. — Angie, Maryland

> I tell myself that I can only control my present choices. A mistake is in the past. It is a “miss take,” as in film making, when they do multiple takes. The next take will, I hope, be better. — An ADDitude Reader

> I say to myself that I can change things next time. If I can’t, I won’t worry about it. — Tony, Texas

> I know that I am doing my best, and I remind myself that I am still learning. — An ADDitude Reader

> Put things in perspective. Analyze others’ reaction to your slip-up. Talk about why you did it, and, if necessary, apologize. — Elizabeth, California

> I embrace my quirkiness and eccentricities, and I remind myself that it’s hard for me to do some things, while remembering that I do other things awesomely. — Dany, Vermont

> I say, “It’s OK. It’s your ADHD, not you. It will get better as you learn more.” — Linda, California

> I judge myself on how hard I tried. I say, “What’s done is done, you can’t change that. Change how you perform on your next task.” — Brad, Connecticut

 

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