“I Wish Non-ADHDers Would...”

Readers imagine a world in which attention deficit was better understood and accepted. ...If only!

ADHD woman clasps her hands and hopes non-ADHDers will learn these things.

Quit telling me it's not ADHD that's causing my child to act up, but my parenting skills.

-Mila, Maryland

> Believe that ADHD is real. I wish that our world understood that a lack of chemicals in the brain is not that different from having chemical deficiencies in other parts of the body, like an insulin shortage leading to diabetes. -D.S., Arkansas

> Stop being so judgmental about medications being used for ADHD treatment. They do not realize how heart-wrenching it was for my husband and me to decide to take this route for our son. It's not like we woke up one day and said, "Hey, we have nothing better to do than place our son on drugs. Let's do it!" There were thousands of tears shed first -- by my husband, me, and my son. -Michelle, Ohio

> Can the remarks about needing to focus on tasks and not responding quickly enough to phone calls and e-mails. At 52, I'm a little tired of it. -Andrea, New York

> Stop being so critical of me. I struggle with constant lack of understanding from my spouse. I also struggle at work. Many times I feel that, due to my inability to get to the point, I am ignored and misunderstood. -George, Louisiana

> Understand that it's not the end of the world if my child wants to stand up when he works or takes his shoes off when he sits. Hey, maybe it's not about them. -Jeanette, Virginia

> Shut up, instead of saying, "I had an ADD moment." Comments like that depreciate the challenges that ADHD brings to our lives every day. -Erin, Florida

> Be more forgiving. We all have strengths and weaknesses. -Diana, Maine

> Refrain from saying that my ADHD will go away and that I'll be fine when I'm older. -An ADDitude Reader

> Realize that dealing with a physical disability would be easier than dealing with a disability that no one can see. -Kerry, Alabama

> Quit telling me there's no such thing as ADHD, that it's all a drug company conspiracy, and that I don't need meds. -Cliff, Colorado

> Be quiet more. I think having ADHD is a lot like being left-handed. The world isn't designed for you, but that doesn't mean you can't learn to navigate it. -Brendan, Massachusetts

> Understand that I don't care what they think. In the long run, what matters is what we think about ourselves! -An ADDitude Reader

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